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Victoria, 48 y.o.

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Good Men Still Exist!

I know good men still exist because i am lucky enough to have one.

5 Defining Qualities Of A Good Man

In a society drowning in articles, dating advice magazines, social media updates, and barely enough time to slow down and reset – we are left with an overflow of information about “what to do”, but hardly enough advice on who to be.



Especially for men, most of the “advice” available out there is how to talk to women, how to treat them or how to start a conversation. However, regardless of what you say or do, the thing that matters the most is who you are.

So, if we want to turn into men who women naturally want to be around without persuasion, how do we approach it?


Here are 5 qualities that make a good man:

1. He is a gentleman
A great man needs to be polite, considerate, respectful and attentive to a woman’s needs. This also including classic gentlemanly behavior such as holding the door, pulling a woman’s chair, taking her coat, walking on the car side of the street, and more. It’s not an overstatement to say that if all men were gentlemen, we would live in a much better world. Sadly, today things are not like that, making guys that have that quality stand out from the rest. In addition, great men never cross the line of being inappropriate.

2. He pays attention


Many men carry a misconception that listening is a passive action and requires no effort (You just sit there while the other person talks), and thus fail to see its true importance.

What women naturally understand, is that listening is more active than we realize. It requires effort to truly absorb what is being said, store it in mind, and then discuss it later. Developing your ability to actively listen will make you more desirable to be around whether we are speaking of personal or professional relationships.

3. He is mature
True maturity means that a man is able to care for himself and he approaches life’s issues in a calm and collected manner. He understands the importance of being an independent man and values what he has. A mature man does not have to be rich but needs to know how to handle his assets. While it is true that men mature later in life, we all know at least one “childish” guy that, even though he is past his 30’s still acts like and lives the life of a schoolboy. A mature man knows when the time has come to grow up and be an adult.


Ideally, a desirable man should live by himself but some might stay with a roommate. He should under no circumstances whatsoever still live under one roof with his parents.

In addition, a mature man will know how to carry himself in public respectably and understands his role as an adult. A true man has to be mature enough to care for himself and be able to take care of all his needs on his own.

4. He has clear goals and ambitions


Mature women know that they should never plan their future with a man who has no future plans himself. A man who has made clear to himself what he wants from life and has the ambition to pursue it will always be more attractive than he who has made peace with mediocrity.

Whatever you do, never allow yourself to be average, as it is just as close to the bottom as it is to the top.

5. He is emotionally strong
A desirable man does not cry when things don’t go as planned. He does not sink into a depressive state as soon as he fails. Rather, he analyzes why it didn’t work out and finds a way to make it work. If you wish to belong to a group if highly respected and desirable men, you have to be emotionally strong.


You can’t be the guy who falls down like a tree with no roots as soon as you face an obstacle, yet still expect a woman’s admiration. Your emotional toughness will be proof that you are a man who is able to make it through the pitfalls of life. Hopefully, you understand that women want saviors.

Is it easy to develop all of these characteristics? Definitely not. And even those who possess most of them will surely find themselves lacking a few. But the important part is to understand how vital they are to becoming a man who can attract the woman he wants to be with.

In the end, it will not be what you say or do for her that will make her love you. It will be the man you have worked hard to become.

Do you think there are more important qualities we might have missed?

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Natalia, 48 y.o.

Ukraine

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Виктория, Вы решили прочитать лекцию мужчинам, какие они должны быть?)))))))

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Victoria, 48 y.o.

Russia

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Нет, Natalia, что Вы  Это не лекция, а скорее фантазия или мечта 

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Svetlana, 37 y.o.

Russia

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Отчего же фантазия и мачта. Полагаете все good men перевелись  

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Victoria, 48 y.o.

Russia

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Svetlana, надеюсь еще есть такие 

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Svetlana, 37 y.o.

Russia

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А интересно есть аналогичный список для женщины?
Ну, своего рода общепризнанный, прям что бы каждый восхищался этими ее качествами???

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Victoria, 48 y.o.

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Svetlana, вот нашла по Вашему запросу. Только он оказался гораздо длиннее 

18 Qualities of a Good Woman Every Good Man Should Look For

If you wonder if you have a great woman in your arms, there are undeniable qualities of a good woman. If she has them, hold onto her tight.
We all possess qualities good and some not so good. The key? The good outweighs the bad, which in relationships isn’t always easy. Some qualities of a good woman are highly overlooked. And, if you aren’t paying attention, you might miss them.

18 qualities of a good woman to signal she is the one for you

Being a good woman isn’t about always putting others above yourself or giving in. It is in the moral compass that you have, the empathy you display, and the way you love. If you find a woman with these good qualities, you are one hell of a lucky guy. Don’t let her get away.

#1 She is nurturing. Nurturing is one of the best qualities that women possess. It is the ability to care for someone and to see their individual needs. Nurturing someone doesn’t mean that you “take care of them.” You recognize a person’s individual needs and seek to fulfill them when you can. If you have a woman who nurtures, you are golden.

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#2 She is forgiving. One of the best qualities of a good woman is forgiveness. Some people just say, “I forgive you,” and some people mean it. There is a supreme difference. The woman who truly forgives doesn’t bring up your past ills at every fight. If she forgave, she has forgotten. It remains in the past.

#3 She isn’t spiteful. One of the hardest things not to be is spiteful. When someone does something to hurt or embarrass us, it is super hard to turn the other cheek and not want to return the favor. A woman who gets over something that hurts her without seeking to strike back is a woman with some pretty amazing qualities.

#4 She isn’t jealous. Women have a tendency to be jealous, not just in their relationships, but all the way around. Jealousy is a hard quality to deal with. It can destroy any good relationship. It isn’t just about being jealous when you are out with or talking to other girls. It is about being jealous in your relationship of any success or accomplishments they have. Not being jealous is one of those perfect qualities of a good woman.

#5 She is patient. Patience really is a virtue. It is difficult to sit and wait for the things we want. A woman who waits patiently for what she desires, is rare. Not insisting on having what we want, when we want it, is a pretty unique quality in the new age of instant gratification. It makes for a much more harmonious life together too.

#6 She is empathetic. She feels for what someone else walks through. Not everyone is born with empathy or with the same degree of understanding. A highly empathetic woman cares for the people around themWhen you hurt, she hurts, which makes communication a lot less arduous in your relationship with her.
#7 She challenges you. An often overlooked quality of a woman is someone who challenges you. It is so much easier to be with someone who thinks that everything you do is incredible and is your “yes, woman.”

But, what they don’t do is make you the best you are capable of being. One of the qualities a good woman is the courage to challenge someone they love, even if it makes them upset. Because you want good things for them. Challenging someone is the hard road to take, but it is taken with love and concern.
#8 She encourages you. Sometimes it is hard to take the difficult path, and you need a little encouragement. The woman who helps push you along and point out all the things you are capable of, is someone you want in your corner.

They are the ones who say, “Don’t give up,” “You will get there,” and “Get back on that horse” when things are rough. Encouragement is what lifts us up when we need it, and brings us higher even when we don’t think we can.

#9 She is your rock. A very good quality that most men negate in a woman is strength. Not the physical kind, although that can be helpful. The kind of strength I talk about is someone you lean on when your legs are a bit weak. Someone with strong shoulders and willing to roll up her sleeves when you need her. It is the type of strength that makes a good woman.

#10 She finds humor in the hardest times. One of the best qualities a good woman has is to take lemons and make lemonade. Seeing the bright side of things is a rare and unique quality. When the rest of us sit around and wallow, the perfect woman finds humor, the good, and turns things around to make them okay. That is a great quality to have at your side.#11 She is loyal. Loyalty comes in many forms. The woman who possesses loyalty doesn’t bash you to her friends, sticks up for you, sometimes even when you are wrong, and is always there to have your back. In a partnership, loyalty is about the strongest bond that you possess.

#12 She is faithful. Faithful is a quality that isn’t just about not cheating on someone. It means that if you are someone important to her, you hold priority in her life, forsaking all others in body and mind. A faithful woman is one of the key ingredients to a happy relationship.

#13 She is fun. Not everyone can be “fun.” Fun is about being spontaneous, wanting to enjoy life, and make the most of every day. If you find someone with the fun quality, she makes every moment worth living.

#14 She is not envious. Envy is different from jealousy. A woman who isn’t envious, doesn’t want what other people have. She wants what she has. Being envious of other people distracts you from what you have yourself. Not being envious is a good character trait. #15 She is competitive. Although not considered a good quality in our society, being competitive means you strive to be the best you possible. It isn’t just about getting ahead of other people. It’s pushing yourself and focusing on a goal. People who dream and follow through with them take you along on their wonderful ride.

#16 Gratitude defines her. Being grateful is a very good quality. No one is required to do anything for you. Although most people don’t see it that way. Being grateful means you are thankful for what you have and for the things people do. That means not taking advantage or believing people in some way owe you.

#17 She is gratuitous. Someone who is gratuitous does things not to get things, but just because they want to help out. The quality of gratuitousness is rare in our society. Typically, people do things for what it does for them. A gratuitous woman does it just because she is kind and good-hearted.
#18 She is altruistic. Much like gratuitous, an altruistic woman does things because of a moral and kind compass. If they see someone in need, they willingly help out and pitch in. What they do, they do for others, not for some ulterior selfish motive.

Not everyone is perfect all the time. If you have a woman with good qualities, then take great pains to hold onto her.
She isn’t always going to exhibit the best side of herself, but if you know she has the qualities of a good woman, that is all you need to know.

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Yuliya, 37 y.o.

Russia

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5 к 18  . Интересное соотношение в 3,6 раза  

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Victoria, 48 y.o.

Russia

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Юлия, к женщинам во все времена было больше требований и пожеланий 

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Markus, 44 y.o.

Germany

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Just a few thoughts  

according to #1: I try to be a gentlemen, but I didn't know about walking on the road side. I'll try to take a note on this in the future.

according to #3: I agree and want to extend it a little. A man should also preserve his inner child. You will loose a lot of joy if you are only mature. A proverb says: Man will always be childs, just the toys become bigger    

according to #5: A man is also a emotional human being. A man who never cries will become emotionally numb. I know man witch fall into depression, because they hide their weak moments.

5 vs. 18 should be more of kind: 23 qualities as a human being.  





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