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Gary, 61 y.o.

United States

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I sent out a total of 300 messages

Okay well I guess I have a question. I like this site and I believe the people on it are genuine, as in I don't think there are fake ads on here which is very nice. Now here's my little story. I am looking for a wife of course and I sent out a total of 300 messages after scouring thousands of profiles on here. I sent messages mostly to women who had 45 as their age limit, many who had 50, and a few who had 40 because I couldn't help it. Yet, out of all of these messages, it has only resulted in a conversation with ONE woman and another who is sort of, kind of, somewhat interested. I am going abroad for two years. I am willing to go to the worst place on the planet if it results in finding a good woman. A white woman, because I reluctant to have mixed-race children. I am willing to fly to her, to spend a summer with her to allow her time to get to know me and decide if she wants to make that jump with me. I am willing to do this repeatedly because I can only stay for 90 days at a time and plan on being abroad for two years. When I return, I will have a rent-free apartment for us that my family owns, that we can live in while we look for a new house with proceeds from the sale of another my family owns. I am willing to adopt her children, actually would look forward to it because I want a family. I don't drink or use drugs. I'm not abusive or a criminal. I make the equivalent of about 30,000 Rubles a month from my government from an accident. You'd never know unless I told you so I'm not a cripple. But with a free house (no rent or mortgage) this is a decent income. Do Russian women have unrealistic expectations about money? I have long hair. Is it the long hair? I have dreadlocks, is it the dreadlocks? I am a musician and artist. Do all Russian women desire a man in a tie or Red-Mafia man to shower her with money until he tires of her?



Allright so with a 1/300 response rate something is very wrong with this picture. Actually I'm pretty astonished. Comments?

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Yuliya


With interest, read your post. And I want to say that many women in the first place is not a financial factor, and it is the desire to find a soul mate. It is difficult. You are looking for a woman of that age, when she realizes that she wants from life and your selection is responsible and serious. In your case, perhaps you, as a man, prevents see your image. If you are serious, try, Experiment, change it (the image), but in any case I think it's a matter of time, just have not found your half. Judging from the forum search often delayed. The patience and good luck.


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Larissa


Your image is very specific and untypical even for our musicians . Hardly ever you can change it but try. This is the reason already u cannot find a partner here. Change it and you will find one. You have good plans for life. Try to persuade your lady that her life with you will be better than before you. I admit that there is a lady who likes your style.

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Elena, 52 y.o.

Russia

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Funny guy you are. That is you - who have unreal wishes)))))). If a young woman write that agree for and old man (40-50) it means only that if this man is RICH.
30 000Rub)))) Did you ever try to work???)))))))))
What else Russian women need in a man - you'll not belive - brains. Education is always welcome too)

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Nadezhda, 40 y.o.

Russia

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Да,многих ваш внешний вид будет отпугивать, тем более если женщине 40-50 лет. Извините


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Antonina

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парень ищет женщину от 23 и до 35 (если я не ошибаюсь)...странно , что писал он девочкам от 40


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Larissa

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Насклько я поняла , он инвалид после какой-то аварии.

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Xenia, 46 y.o.

Russia

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Dear Gary, Россия очень консервативная страна. Ваш эпатажный внешний вид будет отпугивать подавляющее большинство женщин любого возраста. И не только женщин но и мужчин и детей, в случае если Вы планируете когда-либо посетить Россию.


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Robert

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can say the same about you Nadezhda.

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Gulnara, 63 y.o.

Georgia

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Hi, Gary wow! Have a great dreadlocks!: wink: I am 52 and I still dream about those dreadlocks on my head!!!: roll: I am also an artist. and I think that only artists can understand to understand each other. so that I wish you to find your soul mate!)

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Gary, 61 y.o.

United States

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Well cutting my dreads is not an option. I have been working on them for ten years now. I'm not going to be some fake person someone wants me to be by cutting my hair and wearing a suit. You accept me or you don't. A search of popular rock bands will show uncountable musicians with dreads. I suppose that Russians living in a little bubble have not been exposed to this as much as it is very common in the West.

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Gary, 61 y.o.

United States

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I have been to many schools and can converse intelligently on most any subject in history, science, literature, medicine, sociology etc. Brains I do have my sarcastic friend. I have also had some 30 jobs in my life, not that it matters to a person like yourself.

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Gary, 61 y.o.

United States

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I may be 50 but I certainly don't look it as my pictures will attest. I have nothing in common with people my own age. I seek a woman around 30 who is in her child-bearing years because I want a family. The mention of age is because on every profile women state the age range the are willing to accept.

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Gary, 61 y.o.

United States

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Well it may shock you but I have conservative views as well on many things such as geopolitics, gay-marriage, multiculturalism, how radical Islam has taken over many once fine countries as Sweden, immigrants bankrupting various countries hospitality by exploiting their social welfare programs, and much more. But... I have dreadlocks. I guess I shouldn't be thinking that way.

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Karina, 48 y.o.

Russia

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How rude you answer Nadezhda. By the way, she apologized for the views expressed. You have not noticed, dear Robert?

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Gary, 61 y.o.

United States

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Thanks for the support Bob. By the way, what's up with your weird hair and weird glasses. Is that shirt black? You look scary and bizarre. I don't think I will marry you.


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Aleksandra

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Девчата! Оставьте парня в покое- с его понятиями культуры и бытия
Тем более, что пишет он о другом!У вас в городе нет таких? приезжайте к нам- еще не то увидите!

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Nadezhda, 40 y.o.

Russia

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спасибо за комплимент! 


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Natalya


There is a Russian proverb - meet on clothes, escorted to the mind. Appearance of a person can tell a lot about your preferences and interests without words. Whereas the average common person's appearance only masks his inner essence. Seek and you shall find. Good luck.


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Larissa


Love is a very important but when a man has a little money - it is better then nothing. We don't expect a shower of money, but a little - it would be ok.


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Larissa

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Agree with you. Your look with your untypical hair more naturally)))

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Nadezhda, 40 y.o.

Russia

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Спасибо,Карина.

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Natalya, 62 y.o.

Russia

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Прочла ваш пост и хочу сказать. Обвинять русских женщин в завышенных ожиданиях не честно. Прежде чем искать русскую жену ты должен четко понимать- какую ответственность на себя берешь. Переехать в другую страну… Иная культура, менталитет, не всегда знание языка, законов …Просто уклад жизни поменять сложно… А тут!? Ты будешь какое-то время ВСЕМ! И няня, и кормилец, и переводчик, и учитель... Сложно... Не завидую... Дети. Детей любовью не накормишь, не обогреешь… они должны учиться…А значит иметь жилье не временно, а постоянно. Неважно есть у вас дреды или инвалидность… Мало быть не пьющим художником, музыкантом… У русских женщин вполне реалистичные ожидания в деньгах, основанный на здравом расчете, знании жизни…и потому 1000 долларов пособия от несчастного случая могут заинтересовать только глупую женщину…ну или ту, которой все равно с кем и куда, лишь бы уехать из своей страны. Она, скорее всего, оставит Вас как только найдет жилье и работу. Мужчины, особенно мужчины возрастные, не имеют права на ошибку. Потерять год-два-три …не так и много…Разбитое сердце и неоправданные надежды- это больнее. Более реалистично оценивайте самих себя… Более реалистично предъявляйте требования при выборе партнёра…

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Gary, 61 y.o.

United States

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Listen Miss Natalya 51, That 1000 dollars goes a long way when you have no rent or utilities to pay, and even nicer when the sale of the rental home which is expected to bring in 125,000 listing price buys another house that is mortgage free. I am not going to go to one of those "socials" where you get five minutes to talk to 200 women or whatever the ratio is. I am offering to fly to meet someone on this site to spend up to 90 days with her which is the maximum allowable to see if our chemistry is right. I LIVED IN MOSCOW BEFORE. My apartment was in Vladikino and my school was in Domodedovskya. You know, where the panelak was bombed? I am familiar with customs such as never give an even number of flowers to a woman. I am willing to adopt another man's children. The apartment you think is such a shitty deal is on a golf course in an exclusive community where houses regularly go for over a million dollars. The #2 guy at Nike owns a summer home across the golf course from us. I have not been dishonest. I have given my health and financial specifics and all I have received in return is a torrent of crap. Well happy to know that the people on this site are real anyway. Good luck landing that millionaire girls.


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Larissa

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Dear Gary, you should not be offended. U asked, they answered. Many is a very important thing.Why are u surprised? You are looking for a woman who is poor? NO


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Oksana

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Уважаемый,Gary согласна с тем, что Вы написали...к сожалению гости иногда злоупотребляют гостеприимством и выталкивают хозяев прочь из их собственного дома ))) это то, что я вижу в Швеции..но речь не об этом...Вам нравяться дреды, такой стиль одежды и жизни - ок, но может быть показать на фото в Вашем профиле, что то еще кроме Ваших дредов...что расскажет не только о Вашем стиле одежды, но и то как Вы живете в быту и где бываете ..вообщем что то, чтобы помочь увидеть не только Ваши волосы....с наилучшими пожеланиями, Оксана.


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Marina

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Совершенно верно


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Marina

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Понравилось выражение : " иногда гости иногда злоупотребляют гостеприимством и выталкивают хозяев прочь из их собственного дома ", запомню 


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Marina


Привет! Надеюсь Вы не обидитесь  Ну во первых, у вас шикарные длинные волосы, но мало блеска   Если захотите отрезать, то продайте в салон красоты  Наверное много шампуни уходит? И как часто Вы их моете  
В России такие волосы есть у Децла(рэппер) и он нашел свою любовь. Думаю и уверена , что есть девушки, которым нравится Ваш стиль в одежде и ваши волосы и желаю Вам найти свою Любовь!!!!!!


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Marina

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"Поступай так, как хочешь, чтоб с тобой поступали другие" или «Относись к людям так, как хочешь чтобы относились к тебе», Вот и ВСЕ.

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Natalya, 50 y.o.

Netherlands, Purmerend

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....Все проще: как ты сам, относишься к себе, так и люди относятся к тебе!!!
It's much easier ....: how you feel about yourself to yourself, and people treat you!

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