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Finding the right one
After being on this site for a couple of months there are a few things that I wish to discuss.It is only natural that we find attraction with ours eyes first and our hearts second. I have encountered several people that want to find a mate so much, that they want to skip getting to know each other. I believe that everyone joins this site for the same reason. To find their soul mate, lifes partner, and love of their life. I know that after many years of not having a significant other in my life, I have come to realize that I miss that very much. This site may not produce the relationship I yearn for. But I am here to find out.
To me communications are everything. If the people are in such a dire hurry that they do not wish to get to know the people they are attracted to, how will they know for sure they have found the right mate. If communications do not go great and in harmony, I will quickly lose interest. I am already divorced and lonely, so why would I want to go down that path again. I want harmony and hope the next person I hold dearest to my heart is until death do us part.
I can not speak for all, but some issues I have found with profiles are as follows. I want to find my mate based on who I truly am. Not a batch of pictures that were taked by a professional that glamorize me and present me to be something that I am not. I have the utmost respect for the people I have reviewed that show pictures that are true to who they are. I personally wish to get to know someone through the communications we have with letters first. There is a lot to be learned with the responses we have to each other. The old saying that opposites attract, is not what I am seeking. I seek the person that makes me whole, and that I make whole. I also appreciate current pictures. It takes away the wasted time spent wondering what the other person really looks like. If we are not honest with the information we post, them everything about us is based on non truths. Not the kind of relationship I am seeking. Trust is free. But once it is broken it can never be retrieved.
I know I can be narrow minded. It is one of my faults but I can live with that. As I stated before. The eyes lead and the heart follows. I have entered into my profile what I am interested in as a basic description. I get a lot of responses from people that do not fit within those basic descriptions. I do realize that I may be overlooking that right person for me but it is one of the risk I am willing to take. Do I respond? I fell compiled as a gentleman to do so. Do I respond with the truth when most of the time the truth is outlined in my reposes on the profile? No, I do not. I do not wish to offend anyone.
I look forward to responses to this post. It is never to late to learn and grow. I am totally open to that process.
With best wishes and wariest regards,
Gerald
Natalya
Gérald, you are right — there is a strong wish to find a soulmate, but the partner, not "convenient" for life. I, personally, very much hope for it — here or in real life — I believe that Gspod will help me to find my half. And I want to tell you: surely trust! Don't despair that from a huge number of letters you still didn't find that, the only letter, which author you wait for all the life. Be not afflicted that someone hurries — it means not your destiny. Your happiness surely will find you and remains with you. You will feel it. Good luck to you and sincere love!
Anita
Джеральд! Нельзя считать, что время. проведённое здесь, пустое)) Это опыт! Всё у Вас будет прекрасно. Здесь много красивых душой женщин! не смотрите на картинку - смотрите внутрь. Вдруг Ваша судьба чуть выше или ниже, чем у вас написано в профиле?? или чуть старше? или чуть полнее? дайте шанс и себе и женщинам тоже)Всё у Вас будет хорошо!
Джеральд,я согласна с вами!Мне кажется очень трудно так найти спутника жизни,только по фотографиям.А то,что пишут в пожеланиях и своих описаниях чаще всего неправда.А как же узнать душу.Все может совпадать,а души - нет,и это можно понять только при встрече,А иногда вроде бы внешне не нравится человек внешне.а оказывается тебе настолько близок душой.ч внешние качества не замечаешь!А здесь все больше внешность и фигура,а внутренние качества не учитываются!С уважением ,Наталья.
Finding a needle in a haystack... not every person is want. The site -a matrix. You -a creative ideas, activities, strategy hunter and you....Robinson Crusoe. Remember please, dear Gerald to find the pearls, you have to dive deep. Sometimes you have to go through a thousand ways, wear out a thousand pairs of shoes to go home barefoot on the old trail and ....your neighbor (charming lady) can give you water.....and you will realize that....here it is, and the only......
We must believe in fate... Ask GOD to help you, he will not say...never. I wish you success in love, pure, unadulterated and forever.
Dear Gerald, what do you mean saying women are rushing into something here? Do they ask you to marry ASAP? Do they say " I love you"in the first letter?
As I ve noticed, women on the site are wise enough not to hurry but to get to know a man well enough before such an important step as marriage.
If a woman insists on a real meeting in some near future, it doesnt mean, she hurries. She just doesnt want to waste time either. Whats the use in exchanging messages for years? A real meeting is the best way to see if both are a match)
Best wishes.
Nadya,
I would like to apoligize to you for forcing you to read an article that the English was not proper in. It was never my intentions to torture you with bad English. I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me.
Valentina
Привет Gerald,
Очень трудно составить правильное впечатление о человеке по фото и по сообщениям на сайте. Необходимо увидеть друг друга (в Skype, например) и, конечно, нужна реальная встреча. Мы часто ищем свою вторую половинку на просторах интернета. А она живет на соседней улице, возможно...Я думаю все будет хорошо у Вас!
I wish to thank everyone that has responded to my post. I would hope that everyone understands that it is nothing more then a post reflecting my thoughts on issues I have noticed with portions of this site. I do realize that not everyone will share my opinion. I am aware that a mate will come my way if it is God"s will. I am willing to wait. I am not in a rush. I suppose that all I was trying to say in the post is that everyone should create their profile to reflect who they actually are, not who they want to be in a fantasy. Please do not be offended, or worry about me being confused. Just sharing a thought.
Warmest Regards,
Gerald
самые лучшие женщины живут в Сибири, приезжайте к нам и в этом убедитесь, а так можно еще 10 лет искать и остаться одному, лучше встреч могут быть только встречи, удачи Вам...
I have long been in search of their halves, and believe me, I haven't excessive demands. I open my mind for another ways to meet my soulmate,may be a couple of months only recently for myself,,. It has been a revaluation which change my attitude towards Dating and searching for men - I allowed myself mentally that my chosen would come from any source.
Any ways on the Internet, online dating or simply chat on social networks ....
And I just opened myself who I am, what I want - not particularly that someone will appreciate it ...
Yes, to write letters first or wink,make first first step in getting acquainted - for me it is the first turning point, well, I'm not used to flirt, I can not.
I can not yet say that I receive more dating or letters as you know, or at least became more tokens.
But I want to believe that my rethinking help me meet and do not miss my happiness I hope
Inna
I feel you are absolutely right.I agree that one should get to know first.This is what the site is for- to help people get to know one another. The only problem is that women fall in love very quickly. But if a person says "I love you" and let's start a family or let's make sex because I love you so much, I would not beleive that person. Grown up and reliable people never do that. And they never place any false information about themselves.
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