Some important consideration after 3 years experience here

Penso che in 55 anni, abbiamo l'esperienza, l'intuizione, aprite gli occhi e le orecchie! A questa età, è già possibile vedere e capire - che sono vicino a voi. Vivo da solo troppo a lungo, non voglio perdere tempo in lunghe conversazioni su qualsiasi cosa, senza obblighi. . . Siamo venuti tutti ad un sito di incontri per trovare il matrimonio. Sto volando sopra il mare con la figlia e nipote, fratello e sua moglie, fratelli e sorelle ... un sacco! Voglio ... Voglio. . . Voglio amare ed essere amati. . . Voglio svegliarmi sulla sua spalla. . . caffè. . . dargli da mangiare prima colazione. . . Voglio andare al parco, mano nella mano. . . e parlare. . . e ascoltare. . . Voglio andare con lui a un ristorante, teatro, cinema, mostre. . . irrilevante. . . Il principale insieme! Voglio portare una tazza di tè con miele e menta. . . sedersi sulla terrazza di sera. . . Guardare il tramonto ... Sappiamo molto bene, anche quando c'è silenzio ... Voglio andare al mare all'alba. . . vedere l'alba. . . Camminare a piedi nudi. . . pranzo al bar della spiaggia. . . musica soft. . . Odore del mare e magnolie. . . I giochi di luce in un bicchiere di vino. . . il suo sorriso. . . "Lui mi ama!". . . Voglio. . . vivere. . . amore ... Siamo insieme! Forse mi sbaglio, mi dispiace, non voglio offendere. In un anno ... poi un altro anno ... e io sono sola?

Наталья ,какие красивые слова ! разве грубые люди у которых счетная машинка в голове могут оценить это ! Только романтичный мужчина с нежной душой оценит это! Желаю вам счастья и найти того ,кого вы хотите ))

...и прочитав такое пламенное, но в то же время весьма резонное послание мужской половине сообщества от их представителя, я представляю, как некоторые взгрустнули... Хотя, я думаю, не многие, потому как большинство не нуждается в разумных советах, зато нуждается в том, чтобы излить свою желчь на женскую половину...

Браво, Том!

whats problem, Toma&
Dont wont lost your time at site, dont lost. registration on site is voluntary 

Hi. Interesting! So what you are saying is if you don’t have a lot of money and time to spend according to her mode and wimps you are screwed?
I haven’t been on the site for long but I’ve experienced a certain amount of sarcasm and stupid remarks and lots of comments between the women them self’s. In one case I got the feeling that it was actually a man behind the profile, strange. If you are a bit smart you take the opportunity to use a forum like this to actually get to know “the other side” but sometimes I get the feeling it’s all about a meal ticket and nothing more. In most profiles the woman is highly educated and I at least expect a certain conduct but I wonder sometimes. I even get the feeling that the FSU women think they are superior and the men using dating sites are some love cranked stupid asses, just waiting to get picked off their money.
This may sound harsh and provocative but I’m not a dollar millionaire. I’m not poor either but certainly not rich on money. Money doesn’t make me tick!

Доброго времени суток, Kal. По-видимому Вас кто-то очень сильно обидел. Мне это очень знакомо я недавно тоже пережила предательство. Каждому человеку трудно это пережить,особенно думая, что нашел свою любовь. Но не нужно говорить о всех женщинах из бывшего СССР, обобщая их. В любой стране есть непорядочные люди и судить по ним о целой нации нельзя. Я уверена, что большинство женщин и мужчин на этом сайте искренне желают встретить свою половинку и ни какие на свете деньги не заменят рядом любимого человека. Я уверена, что в Вашей жизни обязательно появится та, которая подарит свою любовь и не важно встретите ли вы ее на этом сайте или познакомитесь в реальности. Желаю Вам удачи в поиске, главное не сдавайтесь!

Hi! It sounds a little bit impolite! The women can not live up to your expectation. I wish you good luck in your search of the women from other country!

@ReadMyProfile...I think that you've got some points there, like that it is ridiculous and too expensive to look for an adventure only with women here. But I felt that your "sound" was badly harsh and insulting. One could say it in a neutral way. Don't forget: the sound makes the music.
@ Kai: I would compare the number of women participating in the forum, with the overall number of women of the site. One must realize, that there are 30-40 regular contributors. From those maybe 5-10 are really bity. So no need to generalize in My opinion.

Not sure about your motivations, but this process of looking for a wife is not about convenience if we are looking outside our own "realm". Especially so for those of us who do not have the advantage of living in Europe already. A trip to a girl is not a small endeavor and cannot be done on just a weekend. Have to invest at least 7-10 days of time. Two years ago, I met a sweet girl on this site, we became close and I went to visit her for two weeks, then paid for her visa to the US and her ticket. Later paid for a second longer trip, not to mention excursions, presents, etc. The relationship did not work out, she decided that she did not want to live with me in the US. Was it a waste of money? Of time? Was it convenient? It was part of the process and this process takes a committment. I am not looking for an escort, I don;t need to pay to have a girlfriend. I am looking for my second half.

Steven, you just darling 
You realy undastand what you wont & what you do  
Good luck!

"Я слышу речь не мальчика, но мужа "

Hi. Yes it does and it was my intention to be a bit provocative to see if there would be any emotional responses but there was none?

My message is emotional. You didn't notice because my profession is to find the compromis. I was a little bit angry but I am ever polite.

Steven, you're on the right track. I wish you find their half.

Thanks greatly and best wishes to you also!

Thanks, Olga.
I am not sure I completely understand all, but the point is that I want to understand and learn. And I have been learning. Because this is not a whim and not caprice. This is a search for the promise of a lifetime.

Hi Elena. I'm glad to hear it, thank you. I understand that in your profession compromise and keep your coolness is key but in your personal relations I think it's better to vent your emotions. Off cours in an adult manner and not start throwing things around you  

I read your comments on the forum and sorry that you are so young ... And I'm older than you are hopeless! I sincerely wish you find your love! The presence of thee, and Boris, Age: 56 - inspires and gives confidence!

Thanks for the kindw words, Natalya.  
Best wishes to you as well.
My advice to all is not to settle for inadequate relationships. Expect much from your man and you will likely get it. A good man will run through a wall and slay dragons for his woman if she believes in him and respects him!

Замечательные и верные слова Steven. Думаю вашей женщине очень повезёт с вами.))) Умный и мудрый мужчина, который знает что ему нужно в жизни.
От всей души желаю Вам удачи в поиске своей любви. 

Не хочу Вас обидеть, но глупо обобщать всех женщин России. Мы разные, так же как и Вы. Если Вас обидела одна из женщина, то причём тут другие?

Твои слова да Богу в уши!!!! Я пишу-мужчины молчат. Я начинаю сомневаться... здесь есть живые мужчины?! Я живая! Я настоящая!

Good comments on this topic and some stereotypes to be broken. Coming from the USA, I will not insult you by saying it because I have friends in some eastern countries, middle eastern, and FSU as well as Jamaica and South America, but in the USA it is referred to as "European Arrogance." Arrogance exists in all countries I have found. I myself am naturally a smart ass person, witty you could say. I agree with you on the point that some FSU women just assume that we men are here as foot mats or stepping stones, but others I have found do in fact want a family, but are just less compassionate by nature of the native men they have been exposed to. Where I live we have a small population of FSU men and women that come to work but stay through marriage or university. You really have to compare the way the men are in the country of the women you are talking about. Culturally, it is very different. It boils down to the question "are you willing to settle or do you aim for the stars?" Never settle for the sake of time or loneliness. Who here can say that there has not been a moment when you were dating someone that you really liked and then something happens or is said that makes you pause, but for the sake of hope, you overlook that one thing for the BIG PICTURE. I am only 38 but in my experience, that one thing always comes back to bite you in the ass. Good luck. Glad to see more men on these forums!

This must be something that is coached or taught somewhere! I too have encountered the ridiculous notion that a man with some money to spare would pay literally thousands of $$$ just to travel and have sex with a woman from another country. Because we are here looking for something not found in our own countries YES, some women assume that we men just cannot find someone at home. It is simply not true. The values that make up our future partners life are what I find attractive. Things like 1. Is she a good mother or family member? 2. Does she give something back to her own society, after all, she will be expected to be a productive member of a new society if she is actually married to one of us? 3. Is she compassionate and loyal? 4. Education 5. Beauty........notice the order of things and beauty near the bottom. Contrary to popular belief the comments like I have read in the past such as "he is looking for a nurse" or "he just wants a trophy wife" or "he is only after sex because he has some sexual deviance"......all completely not true but these statements help us fill in the blanks left in a woman's profile. All of those stereotypes are the typical, easy to reach for answers...like with my ex wife and my son. She assumes that I spoil him with gifts and sweets to gain his favor.....like it is not possible that my son actually enjoys his time with me because I take him to work with me, or I take time to play his favorite video game, or I just stop in at school and surprise him and take hi to lunch early. The easy to reach for answers are the most lame yet in my country at least, they are the first ones brought up. I will shake your hand on the topic...it is definitely NOT worth the investment just for sex alone.

How do you do, cal.! Believe me, that our women ( I have in the form from the former countries of the CIS) in majority their they actually have a good formation and worthy intellect. I speak about those, who by the generation of 60-70 years. - I do not know for the rest. And majority of us wants, first of all, understanding, love, concern and usual human morals. Yes, money in this life mean much, but not all. Possibly to you fell not best of us. But know: Slav women - this is treasure! I know that I speak.

и хотите сказать что у нас нет женских тюрем ? а если есть,то там сидят политические осужденные? уж зачем так идеализировать то девоньки? да полно же мошенниц, воровок, убийц и прочей швали ...