Brad Pitt

Paul, change you picture, you look like a serial killer.
Smile, become approachable.

Paul, how is about following plan:
1.Put your smiling nice face on the profile as a main picture, remove the rest.
2.Pay at least 1 month of Golden membership here (yes, everybody can afford this, especially for a nice chance to find the right one).
3. Start to write to women first (but don't moke, don't complain, just something light and funny and nice.Compliments (no sexual!😊  would do as well.
4.Wait what you get as a responce and wait for other first letters - they will come if you have Golden membership.
5.Stop writing posts in forum with complaints about bed women, about sex, about lonelyness, stop write at least for a month.
6.Post your results after this month in a forum, if you like.Or, if you will dissapear silently, we will know that you are on the right way to your dream and will be glad for you, honestly!
7.Start to do it now, even as a nice experiment for yourself, without any expectations.You will be pleasantly surprised 

Hey Paul,

I agree with Julia. I'm FAR from a 'hot guy'. I'm 42 and slightly overweight.

I've met TWO amazing women on this site, both younger than I actually was looking for (27 & 2 . One came to visit me, and I visited the other in Ukraine. 

Both were smart, kind and beautiful. NEITHER asked for money from me. Yes, i paid for food, and outings that we went on, but no more than you would when dating a normal girl here in the US. There were no shopping trips to Tiffanys or Gucci. In fact, one girl insisted on paying a few times for dinner to show me she was sincere. 

If you're wondering why it didn't work out. 1) Due to differences about having children or not. 2) She went to work in a bank in Germany and we drifted apart. I'm still friends with both and we text each other now and again to see how we're doing.

What did I do to get so 'lucky'?

1. Definitely getting the Gold Membership helps. I think it made me appear more 'serious' in my intentions.