Men & women
my point of view
today i'am going to made my rabblerouserrussian and ukrainian women please,i don't know what your local men did to yourself,but seriously you have a vision of men,so aside of the reality it's very spooky,it's looks like your judging all the men of the planet by your twisted criterias and your personnal experience,but please don't, because even you have scumbags for sure,all the men are not like that,but it's avalaible for us in the other way,you have weirdos everywhere,but you have two type of weirdos,the negative and destructive ones,and the funny and positive ones,a lot of writers, painters etc are weirdos.
it's looks like also you'll seen men like drunked hobbos,but it's a few percentage in western europe,i mean really hard drinker,in many cases it's social drinker,myself i don't drink and i even don't remember the last time maybe 10 years more or less,and also you have men who were but follow psychotherapy (it's happen after some emotionnal issues/breakdown,death of a child,divorce,fired from work etc)
about the negative vision than have north american men on ukraine especially and maybe on russia
some northern american men (USA,canada) seen ukraine like a third world country,at the same level than a sub-saharian african contry that's the real third world for example,it's sad, i don't,
for sure ukraine have a change rate with hryvnia(1 EUR ≈ 28.0410 UAH),who place this country like a country who needs economical reforms,but i have seen a lot of pictures of ukraine and to me it's a modern country,indeed more near of the european standards than northern american men thought,especially if it's come from very wealthy northern american their vision are biased because they don't know us,remember i'am french not northern american,it's made a real difference.
they're prism perception is reduced,also maybe they don't meet the right person,is why they are bitter.but i had more better connection with quebecians,because the language,french but with strong accent and special expression,they seems more open.
in fact i'am suprised of ukraine,russia,and belaruss it's seems than they are just behind EU in term of modernity,i don't see this big gap like other countries.but some persons maybe still have a vision of the pre-wall area (1991),but since 28 years many things have change.
online dating is full of "clichés" (a french word used by N.A.) means pre-thinkings,and you don't know all the crappy bullshits that have read about european women/girls behaviour at first and guess what all writen by ... american males at 95%!
"clichés" like the french baguette and the beret,i don't wore beret and i don't eat bread
for sure you have strong cultural traits in many countries but it's more in a larger way and don't defined individuals,but don't be wrong northern americans i speak in a general manner.
so today i'am the rabblerouser because i'am tired too read so negative visions,and if you start from this foot is not really helping you to find someone to share your life.
ok you have two sides men and women who want the same thing,
but you need to be more didactic
what are you compass,your manoeuvre step,your tolerance also,your ability of adaptation.
there is many compasses,axis,i have allready explain mine
but i give you once more in a neutral manner,you need to this five axis :
-physical
-sexual
-comportemental/behaviour
-sociological/political/cultural
-geographical
-physical:attraction what are your turn in/turn on
-sexual : a very important part what are you accepting ,what you don't,what are your boundaries,what is your level of curiosity,of your mind opening
-comportemental/behaviour : same than sexual,but with minor differences,if one like to play with the driller at 8 A.M. the sunday morning and the other don't could be very problematic, me in this case i had murder instinct ,i'am joking of course
-sociological/political/cultural : because also you could have clashes but you could also debate,philosophing
-geographical : what is your range, are you able to run the planet or not,because now with internet things are different
-religion: for myself i haven't create this one but i don't want start conflict,but in a general manner and just taking a very binary example believer/non believer,again are you able to adapt,are you basing you research on your personnal convictions or are you able to stay them aside.
children:single parents i don't give you any axis because i can't speak of something,that i don't know
all these details are counting and are very important, i can go further but is not really necessary,i give you a canva,you are free to follow or not but it's an analysis than i have made for myself,and you could probably add some more,like the economical,the jobs,the sisters and brothers,your own parents/grandparents,cars,boats,spaceship, wait,what?you haven't a spaceship what a looser etc...it's up to you
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