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Danny, 38 y.o.

India

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Just 45 minutes and 36 questions are all you need to know your partner!

Is it possible to know intimate details, if not everything, about a person in just 45 minutes? While many would shake their heads in disagreement, psychologist Arthur Aron has made the impossible possible! Yes, the expert on interpersonal relationships has guaranteed that all you need are 36 questions and 45 minutes to break down emotional barriers with any person, be it random strangers or your partner. Armed with these questions you can now build new relationships, romantic or otherwise, just under an hour.



But don't forget to pause and ponder before sharing personal details! Curious? Read Vinita Nangia's blog 'Share intimacies, but don't overshare!' to understand how to be vulnerable and intimate, yet stay safe!

And, here are Arthur Aron's 36-questions. Don't forget to give these a try:

Set I

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a "perfect" day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set III

25. Make three true "we" statements each. For instance, "We are both in this room feeling ... "
26. Complete this sentence: "I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... "
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
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30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

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Olga, 47 y.o.

Azerbaijan

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Если мне кто то стал задавать эти вопросы при знакомстве то я бы подумала что он сумасшедший и прекратила разговор с ним  


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Oksana


На самом деле вопросы неплохие.Но не все сразу и в первый день знакомства)))

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Olga, 47 y.o.

Azerbaijan

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Оксана, в том и фишка. Это не тест для партнеров. Это эксперимент психолога на открытость. Тут есть о чем дискутировать и я думаю что автор выложил это даже не поняв сути. Я читала об этом. Это эсперимент психолога при котором он сажает двух незнакомых людей напротив друг друга и заставляет их задавать эти вопросы при этом смотря в глаза. Как вы видите вопросы в чем то сумасшедшие в чем то слишком личные. Некоторые вопросы не станешь обсуждать даже с партнером. Эксперимент в том что предельная откровенность и честность в самых личных моментах заставляет людей стать ближе. Я думаю что автор поста просто не понял сути предложив задавать эти вопросы при знакомстве или своим партнерам. Поэтому я и написала что если бы при знакомстве мужчина начал задавать мне вот эти вопросы то я бы подумала что он сумасшедший   эксперимент ученого это не то что стоит переносить в жизнь и использовать на каждом шагу  

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Olga, 47 y.o.

Azerbaijan

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http://fit4brain.com/8522 я нашла статью об этом эксперименте на русском языке если кому то интересна суть


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Ben

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Давайте вместе сума идëм …  

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Olga, 47 y.o.

Azerbaijan

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  Идем с ума    

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Natalya, 66 y.o.

Russia

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  Сойдём с ума!!!    





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