Is it possible for a woman to stay on the site after marriage?

Hi Inessa, do you allow me to modify your question? sounds strange doesn't it? I wanted to stress exactly on that word "to allow". There is possibly a confusing premise there. Does a married woman need allowance to keep or not her contacts, acquaintances or friendships? Does she have to OBEY? Maybe this kind of logics can attract exactly those men which women actually don't like. Machos, kings and would-like-to-be-rulers... So, I would maybe ask with phrases like:"would you mind if your future wife...", or "what kind of contacts will you tolerate?". What do you think about those "natural" hierarchies between men and women? Are they real?

Yes, yes, thank you, Boris! I agree with you! 'Would you mind if...' is more correct. In fact, I hasitated how to form a question in propper way when was writing. But you didn't answer it.... Or I can guess - the answer is YES. Am I right????

I think that we should be beyond obeying and commanding in this times. Life is quite complicated and there should be synergies and cooperation in relationships. Nice theory, isn't it? But what in case if decisions are needed? Well maybe the solution coming from the more competent partner should have more weight. I know a lot about computers, so it would be better if I decide when buying a new PC. Maybe my partner understands better which washing machine is more suitable and so on. But just saying:"ты мужчина, ты знаеш лучше" is just too simple nowadays.

Inessa, they do not have the habit to put pressure on women

Hi, Boris! Thanks for your answer. The theory of synergies and cooperation is really good and helpful in relationships. And I agree that everyday or rutine decisions should be made by both partners together. But there are some things that need to be discused beforehand to prevent stupid mistakes. When people love, respect and appreciate each other oppinion, it's natural to ask her/his attitude towards provocative things before these things destroy the relationships or trust.
The saying 'you are a man and you know better' is not simple as you think because if a man makes a decision, he takes the responsibilty for the consequences. As I realise, in the west this model doesn't work any more ...

Hello Inessa,
Having been through the process of helping a wife acclimate to a new country and culture, I would be happy to have had a resource like this for Tatyana when she first came to the states. If you cannot trust your spouse, then you should not have married them, in my opinion. We both made it clear that infidelity would not be tolerated in either case and that settled it.
She and I divorced for other reasons than this.
But back to your question, I think that if a woman had a support group on here, then by all means, it should continue to support her, because the time in the new marriage and new country will be much more difficult and stressful than the time before!

Hello, Steven!
Thanks for the comment. I've noticed one thing - there are some men here who had a Russian/Ukrainian wife in the past. They divorced or parted due to some reasons but the men want to find a Slavic wife again. Do they have trust AGAIN? Or do they hope that this time everything will be different because they are experienced? What makes people trust again?

I think some people trust and some people do not. It is in the person. I think I am a naturally optimistic person, expect the best from life (while still as a realist preparing for difficulties). I feel as though a Slavic girl has the right culture, ideals, values that I am looking for and it is so much less likely to find in America. So while the marriage was only a partial success and ultimately ended, I know that there is a girl for me and I think she is somewhere in Eastern Europe at this moment. Certainly having been through the process of combining cultures and learning some of the language and customs makes it easier to continue.

hi Inessa ,
I think the base which the marriage should be built on is something like ,the real natural warm-heartedness , true love , cooperation in life and Participation in building the family ,so the man needs to be shared these emotions as well as women, both of them are like the house for the other's which they live in and forever .
So, If the marriage based on that I think no one need to ask such a question .

Hello, Mahmoud! I share your opinion! A mature point of view!
What a nice word I hear again - 'COOPERATION'!!!
No jealousy - only cooperation!!!
I wish good luck and great love!!!

I really disagree with Boris. A husband has the right to forbid his wife from being on a dating website.
The woman also has the right to forbid her husband from being on a DATING SITE.

With that being said, if a member of a marriage or serious relationship wanted to continue to be active on here they should explain in detail to their partner why and openly provide them access to their account. After all, they are the ones creating the situation, they should solve it as well.

This is common sense. Respect mutually. Men and women should both make their partner feeling secure a priority. Security comes from honesty and transparancy.

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Hi Inessa. I assume this works both ways, men could also need advice or ?