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Halpinevk

why do you want older men?

I will be brief.  Why do the younger girls always want an older man?  Are they so sure he will be established?  That is not the case anymore.  Life is hard for people everywhere, just harder in some places.  I am not bragging but I have more than many men older than me.  Also I have dated some girls older and noticed no difference.  I have seen people older act very immature.  


 


I am am nurse.   Ironic, you would go to the hospital and trust me with your life, but do not want to communicate because I am "too young".  All I think when a girl says that is she is immature, or she is a gold digger and just wants a rich man.  Not someone to build a life with.  Anyway, I think the girls should reconsider their settings 

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Alisa, 46 y.o.

Russia

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Hello John! I do want younger man   but I don't write about it in my profile only because think it's impossible

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Yana, 43 y.o.

Ukraine

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Hello,John.I think,it depends on the age of women, it first.If girl is 20 -24 she can not prefere guys older, but think, that guys of her age can not to be ready to family yet, and can choose somebody about 4 years older, not more.Afterwards, being older, women can choose men of theirs age or younger.I can tell, in our country men marry even in theirs 18 th, and wife can be older, for example,one my girlfriend married in her 27 to guy of 18. But, in international dating 2 reasons of doubt-if young man want to marry very soon and if he has possibility,because it will take more time and money,than if they were inside the contry.So, first of all, if i were you, i would find out procedure in your country and all problems and expenses, and afterwards you could tell to yourself and proove to potential partner, if you can do it.Because, sometimes it happens, even with older men, they become interested in all these things too late, and get, they can`t do it, so, as a result, women cease to believe to all men in general.


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Halpinevk

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Again, I guess this is how I am different.  I looked into what was required.  The minimum income I have to make to sponsor, and also to have a co-sponsor.  And how much the visa applications are, and airplane tickets, etc.   But I would nto e rich when she came here.  I am still in school and working.  But i do have a place we can live, and parents who would help, etc.  Of course when I am finsihed with school that is a different matter. I will hopefully then be a doctor.  but medical school is along time. 


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Natalya


Good afternoon, John! Probably the matter is that most of pariahs of your age look for the girl for entertainments here. My daughter is 22 years old. It was registered here, on this site, but — not long. But it was disappointed. The reason — unavailability of young guys to the serious relations.

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Yana, 43 y.o.

Ukraine

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Well,i think,maybe it would be good to mention these advantages and your seriousness,when you write to girl,here were young couples,and,if you know,what you want,in the result,you will find your ideal match .Not talking,that "too young",it`s shortcoming, which is not for long .As it was mentioned on forum already,percent of answers is about 5-10,and better to have as a pretexte for refusal letter "being young" than "being too old". 

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Eri, 38 y.o.

Israel

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Hi John! This is not so! For example I'm seeking a man who will be yanger than me. I wrote this in my profile...and now when men see this they don't wanna write me because they all older than me. =^^=.

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Yeah, I'm looking for yangest guy and that is my principle )) I think it depends of personal test and preferences..  


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Maria


Yes, it is the way it is. It's one of a blind spots. Some girls just get experienced and they want some constant comfort, or maybe they just truly believe that there's somewhere a man who can turn their lives into paradise. Of course as a result, it couldn't be a man younger or immature, because we feel it on the essential level that we can't be happy with someone who's in the hunting of happiness. From this point of view mature person looks more reliable and trustworthy. A man who's crossed this edge is clever enough to understand that happiness and comfort doesn't have to be found, but made. We know that mature person won't be catching once-lifetime-offer, but he's building that.

Some people just blind to see what's life is offering to them. They are living in their own comfort zone and they say: "Its going to be this way or neither". They foolishly think that if the person is young, or different nothing is going to work. They rejecting a chance to know.

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And there's only a few percents whose is open minded, flexible and mature enough to know that life isn't about the destination, but journey.
That nor the comfort matters, but the person you buil it up with. That's it's not about the life level, but truly about the person you share your life with. Anyway, every person has this blind spots. We just have to find one who will catch the focus.

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Nikolaos, 51 y.o.

Greece

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John, it is not always so. I am 43 and I have the opposite impression. Most of the ladies whose profile I checked, seem to want someone younger. But this is just luck, I might have checked some other profiles, and see different requirements.

Well, truth is, we men are easily disappointed. Truth is, we should tell a woman we want her, not worrying too much if we are a bit older or younger than she may say she wants us to be. People connect by chemistry, words, laughs, so unless someone is entirely different from what we want, everything is possible.

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Marcos


Congratulations! I like to see that kind of comment.

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Alexandra, 46 y.o.

Russia

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Hello, Halpinevk. I saw your post and wanted to answer you. I'm a one of those women who prefer men older than me. And money or establishment are not the reasons for it. The reason is I can't find any common language with young men. You ignore me. I don't know why, but it's a fact. We have no common interests, common values, you don't want to take care of woman. But men older than me have another values, differ from yours ones, and we have common interests, common values. I feel the very I need next to them -- weak woman. Who can take care, give happiness, trust and be trusted, to help and be helped. All of these things I don't see from young men. I don't know the reason of it. It's so sad for me, but it's a fact. And I have to live with this fact.   





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