Dear Lord, Rick... you are such a sweet, kind, and a bit naive. Please, don't be offended. I understand how it works. Love can be so ruthless, even a mature and wise man can be blindsided.
That woman took advantage of you. She lied to you. She manipulated, punished you by refusing to communicate. Is that what you want your marriage look like? I think you can do better.
I know, it's a harsh advice but cut your losses and start from scratch. I had been looking for my husband for three years and had to kiss many frogs before I found my one and only prince  
There are hundreds of fantastic women on this site. Communicate! Take your time to get to know a woman. Know exactly what you look for. Don't take things at a face value. Don't fall for just a beautiful face and a nice body.
Sending positive vibes your way, you will need them. I sympathize with you. I am getting my MSW ))))