"Please understand , that I am not judging you." It seems, you are. You got the story wrong: "...you now live, in the region, close to Ukraine". And further proceeded insinuating with regards to "...who is the number 1 in your life. Is it your husband, your daughter or the other relatives?...how fair it is, to your man." Okay, I'll satisfy your curiosity. We've been happily married coming on 7 years. Yes, we are in different countries at the moment. My husband is deployed overseas for his job. In fact, I just returned to the US after living a year and a half in the Middle East with him, but could not stay due to escalation of political situation there. He is staying for one more year to complete his assignment. There's no "tough questions", no second guessing, no choosing in our relationship. Only love and ultimate commitment. By the way, I am from Russia.