In addition to the answers that you have received, I want to add one more point:

there is a biological reason that we (as people) but men even more so 'feel' the world through their eyes: evolution.

The explanation is easy: traditionally men have been the hunters and guardians whereas women were the gatherers and keepers of the house.

Our most reliable way to find out, if we're in danger is to see it through our eyes. That is a process over thousands of years, and our most complex, most developed and most sophisticated organ are the eyes.

What I want to say is that it has been necessary for us as humans to distinguish between friend and foe in a flicker of time - a single instant often still is a matter of life and death.

Think about this: when we wonder around in the dark, we become insecure, overly sensitive and develop a high startle response. And the reason? Simple: because we want to see, but cannot.

You will find people with visual aides (such as glasses or contact lenses) but you will never find someone with 'smelling aides'  or 'touching aides' and it's been only for a comparatively short period of time that blind people, for example, have a genuine chance to achieve in our society.

In this fashion, we still rely and depend on our eye-sight for most situations and circumstances.That also includes aesthetics, and to a great extent.

An example: food can be as tasty and nicely smelling as you wish, if it looks disgusting, people choose to stay away from it, even though it may well be good, healthy and altogether great.

In short: sight, vision and looks are important because human nature, especially male human nature, has developed this way over the past millenia. That's a plain and simple fact.

The way we handle or rather choose to handle this fact is very different: there is no vital necessity (anymore) for men to inspect everything into the smallest detail, and women who by nature are more cautious, reserved and protective of themselves will certainly have their worries and concerns when demands are made.

My aim is to explain and not to justify any crazy expectations that men make because they feel they have the right to see. Their desire to see is a natural impulse (that's why men are much more susceptible to lust too and are prone to more easily lose control over themselve), their way to handle this desire is a choice, in good cases a conscious choice, in not so good cases an unconscious choice or even a base instinct.

It is always OK to ask, but bear in mind that it always OK to refuse. Stay away from people who refuse to acknowledge your "no", but ask them questions and give them the chance to explain.

Good luck with your communication!