Hello Tom
I have met in person with several girls I have seen on this site. I even had a two years relationship with one of them.
It is in my opinion better to visit her in the country where she lives. Is more comfortable for her and more simple and clear situation about the money. You only have to pay for your expenses and if you meet in a place all you will need to pay is for her taxi and the date expenses, such as meal in a restaurant, tickets for a concert, etc.