Having lived in the USA about 2 years, it is difficult for me to understand how an American man could entertain let alone fixate on the idea of a wife his granddaughters age.  It would be one thing if said relationship happened to form and bloom organically I understand in very, very rare cases it may (like being hit by a meteor). Of course, there are situations where extreme wealth is in the picture but that is an entirely different conversation (thou how happy said woman will be is also a big question) and for .001% of the world, so I don’t see that as relevant here.

From my vantage point, I would rather be 45 or 50 or 60 than be with a man looking for a youthful pillow partner (if only in the elderly man’s imagination) or worse yet a personal nurse.  So, what exactly is in it for the young woman here? What happens when the young and hot youthful woman ages say 5 or 10 years what then?

Recently, one woman (about 40 years old) at my work mentioned that her husband is in the hospital. Co-workers sympathized and wished her husband well. Afterwards, another woman asked the question about his age. The first woman answered that her husband is 12 years older than her. Nobody said anything in response trying to be tactful, but the reaction of people was obvious. The woman felt this reaction at once and began to explain (although nobody asked) how their marriage, with such an age difference, could happen. American women, if they are not in an absolutely disparate situation, would not even consider a significantly older man as a partner or husband (again with extremely rare exception). When an American man age 50+ appears with a foreign (usually Eastern or Eastern European…) wife 20+ years younger, everybody understands the unhealthy basis of such a marriage, both from the man’s and woman’s side. Moreover, does the American man understand it isn’t his sparkling personality that attracts her?? and if said American man is foolish enough to think so, well you get what you get and deservedly so.

All that said, I think it is very important for women from Eastern Europe, including Russia and Ukraine, to understand that any decent American man will not look for a wife so vastly younger than himself. Such men have no chance to realize their matrimonial fantasies in their own country because local women respect themselves and have no need to marry any man their grandfather’s age.