Hi Tom; I believe it is possible to love and deeply care about someone in 3 or 4 weeks online. But is it really possible to know her without spending more time? How much time? If you have fallen in love, whatever she needs; we should be understanding and patient. With all the evil in the world, it is prudent for girls to be very careful. I like sex as much as any guy (maybe more!  ), but have learned sex can ruin a great relationship (especially if she is with someone else). For me, sex should be the icing on the cake of a special relationship that has been cemented in other ways. Maybe she respects you more for that; maybe she doesn’t want to be respected like that. I’m sure most of you believe I’m old school and ridiculous; that is my opinion. I will just have to suffer through…