I have been reading. Julia, everything positive you have said about children is true. But I am saddened by some of the remarks.
Until I was 30-years old, I lived well, traveled, owned sports cars, classic cars, blah, blah, blah and was proud of myself for my accomplishments. At 30, I married; the following Christmas my son was born. This was the most humbling experience of my life; since then I have never failed to see children as a wonderful and precious gift. They are each an opportunity for all of us.
I have attended 7 various universities, but I learned more in my life from raising a child than from all that education combined. Are children sometimes inconvenient? Of course, and not everyone is wired to be a parent (although sometimes not a bad thing to hold a child and try to learn something from cradling them in your arms). I do not look down on anyone who knows their limitations, but most reasons I see posted here so far seem superficial and selfish. Sorry, but that is my opinion.
Children do not come when we decide or when it’s convenient; I believe that is how the plan was meant to be. We want everything the way we want it in a perfect world, but children come at such a time as to cause us to adapt to their needs. Remember they are an entrusted gift and require responsibility and dedication; their presence is supposed to teach us, for those who will learn. This often defines our character.
Never once on this site have I looked at any profile and not considered the girl because she had a child. Contrarily, I saw an opportunity to become a father to a child who desperately needed one, to teach them and show them love, as was I, by my parents; to dramatically change the entire life of one child for the better. Why else are we here? To eat, drink and make merry until we die??? We are here on this planet to help each other. What does it profit a man to gain the entire world and lose their own soul? Children are our natural investment for the future; even for an atheist.
Julia has very eloquently written about the positive benefits of choosing a woman with a child. You men should all be so lucky! Thousands of childless couples in the US have spent small fortunes to adopt Russian children and bring them here and raise them as their own. How can a person turn down the love of their future partner because they also have a child? Do you not think she will love and h0onor you even more and cling to you because you have accepted all of her!? Girls, if he is not interested in you because you have a child, this is not the generous man who will treat you as you should be treated.
I am now ready to accept the first challenger to my opinion; who will it be, Tom?
Until I was 30-years old, I lived well, traveled, owned sports cars, classic cars, blah, blah, blah and was proud of myself for my accomplishments. At 30, I married; the following Christmas my son was born. This was the most humbling experience of my life; since then I have never failed to see children as a wonderful and precious gift. They are each an opportunity for all of us.
I have attended 7 various universities, but I learned more in my life from raising a child than from all that education combined. Are children sometimes inconvenient? Of course, and not everyone is wired to be a parent (although sometimes not a bad thing to hold a child and try to learn something from cradling them in your arms). I do not look down on anyone who knows their limitations, but most reasons I see posted here so far seem superficial and selfish. Sorry, but that is my opinion.
Children do not come when we decide or when it’s convenient; I believe that is how the plan was meant to be. We want everything the way we want it in a perfect world, but children come at such a time as to cause us to adapt to their needs. Remember they are an entrusted gift and require responsibility and dedication; their presence is supposed to teach us, for those who will learn. This often defines our character.
Never once on this site have I looked at any profile and not considered the girl because she had a child. Contrarily, I saw an opportunity to become a father to a child who desperately needed one, to teach them and show them love, as was I, by my parents; to dramatically change the entire life of one child for the better. Why else are we here? To eat, drink and make merry until we die??? We are here on this planet to help each other. What does it profit a man to gain the entire world and lose their own soul? Children are our natural investment for the future; even for an atheist.
Julia has very eloquently written about the positive benefits of choosing a woman with a child. You men should all be so lucky! Thousands of childless couples in the US have spent small fortunes to adopt Russian children and bring them here and raise them as their own. How can a person turn down the love of their future partner because they also have a child? Do you not think she will love and h0onor you even more and cling to you because you have accepted all of her!? Girls, if he is not interested in you because you have a child, this is not the generous man who will treat you as you should be treated.
I am now ready to accept the first challenger to my opinion; who will it be, Tom?