My brother has two daughters. When they became old enough to date boys, he made rules. The boy comes to the house; my brother insures the boy understands the rules. The daughter has a time to be home; be prompt! If she is not home at the proper time, the boy knows my brother will be out looking for them. After a pleasant chat, as the boy goes out the door with my niece, my brother says, “Son, please understand, I am willing to die for my daughter; are you!?” Then he smiles! (Helga, this is just a funny little (true) story; do not lecture me about meaning! Remember I told you about “tongue-in-cheek?) ))))))
I am thinking out loud; maybe no one agrees. Be safe; rather than sorry. Maybe a good idea for each of you to develop a set of rules, before you meet a man here and get to know him; before you have an emotional connection. Determine these rules in your mind, what you will and will not do; write them down and carry them with you to remind you. Make these decisions before you have an emotional attachment; when you have a clear head. Then obey them.
Meet in a neutral place. Never meet in an unfamiliar place where he has an advantage. You are weaker, so remain in control so you can get out quickly, if you need. Always leave yourself an escape; plan ahead and remember your plan. Think in your mind, what is the worst thing that could happen to me in this situation? Then plan so it cannot happen. Never meet him in Sarajevo!!!
Take a respectable amount of time. Never give friends a chance to ask, "Are you out of your mind!!?" In what culture is it acceptable to fly to meet a stranger, after a few conversations, because he pays to get you there? Many of you could be my daughter. A rich, handsome, smooth-talking man may try to sweep you off your feet. You become careless, because you are almost in love! He is so wonderful! Your emotions take over, and your mind was doing such a fine job. Whenever your emotions take over, you are in danger, especially in a foreign country where you do not speak the language. No! you make the rules and tell him the conditions and stick with it. If he is worthy, he will play your game. If he doesn’t he is the loser!
I'm the only guy who responds, listen to the old man. Now I will go get my warm milk and go to bed. ))))))
I am thinking out loud; maybe no one agrees. Be safe; rather than sorry. Maybe a good idea for each of you to develop a set of rules, before you meet a man here and get to know him; before you have an emotional connection. Determine these rules in your mind, what you will and will not do; write them down and carry them with you to remind you. Make these decisions before you have an emotional attachment; when you have a clear head. Then obey them.
Meet in a neutral place. Never meet in an unfamiliar place where he has an advantage. You are weaker, so remain in control so you can get out quickly, if you need. Always leave yourself an escape; plan ahead and remember your plan. Think in your mind, what is the worst thing that could happen to me in this situation? Then plan so it cannot happen. Never meet him in Sarajevo!!!
Take a respectable amount of time. Never give friends a chance to ask, "Are you out of your mind!!?" In what culture is it acceptable to fly to meet a stranger, after a few conversations, because he pays to get you there? Many of you could be my daughter. A rich, handsome, smooth-talking man may try to sweep you off your feet. You become careless, because you are almost in love! He is so wonderful! Your emotions take over, and your mind was doing such a fine job. Whenever your emotions take over, you are in danger, especially in a foreign country where you do not speak the language. No! you make the rules and tell him the conditions and stick with it. If he is worthy, he will play your game. If he doesn’t he is the loser!
I'm the only guy who responds, listen to the old man. Now I will go get my warm milk and go to bed. ))))))