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The hallmark of a failed relationship is the unwillingness of either person to change. We are born with traits and a temperament, but our personality is developed over time. We are NEVER at the mercy of our personalities; we always have the ability to control our destiny and who we are, if we so choose. That is where love is important.
Men often expect women to change who they are to please them; they frequently do not possess the manliness and heart of love to change themselves to please their wives. Relationships are a two-way street, regardless of how many “One Way” signs some men post. Men often confuse love and control; control is never love.
Women realize they can get a lot of things from their man by treating him a certain way. Men who believe they can get what they want from their woman through force, control, coercion, or bribing them with money and jewels, are fools. There isn't enough money in the world to cause a woman to relinquish who she is and become a servant or a slave; she wants to be loved and will do almost anything for that. Look around you, you know I am right! She wants a leader and a friend; not a ruler!
Men who say their personalities are set at birth and unchangeable are simply too lazy or selfish to pay the price to become a better person; for themselves or for their woman. These men do not love their woman enough to be a real man. A real man sacrifices for the one he loves and thinks nothing of himself! Claiming “we are who we are” is a sad excuse for being self-centered or too lazy to modify his world to accommodate her. The result is often that she lives an empty life of "duty", while he thinks he is some little Napoleon; both are usually miserable. People feel sad for her and laugh at him!
Real men love their wives more than themselves and treat them accordingly; the result is they enjoy her respect and devotion and both will be happy. If he is trustworthy, she will trust and honor him.
Love is not a daily negotiation to get what one wants. Both must cease to think what they are getting out of their relationship and give without conditions; only then are both needs met. There are some characteristics of love that my parents taught me as a child. We were made to memorize this because of its importance. Some will recognize this. I do not believe this has ever changed. I will share:
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. Love keeps no record of wrongs.
Any relationship worth having requires lots of work; part of that work requires one to stop making excuses for why they cannot change and start making themselves better. If you say you would give your life for her, shut up and change your life for her, to be a better person for her. She is weaker than you; be a man and do what is best for her. She will reward you with her loyalty, love, affection, and probably anything else you could ever desire.
(Personality? Set at birth and unchangable!? My God, Victor! What were you thinking!?)
The hallmark of a failed relationship is the unwillingness of either person to change. We are born with traits and a temperament, but our personality is developed over time. We are NEVER at the mercy of our personalities; we always have the ability to control our destiny and who we are, if we so choose. That is where love is important.
Men often expect women to change who they are to please them; they frequently do not possess the manliness and heart of love to change themselves to please their wives. Relationships are a two-way street, regardless of how many “One Way” signs some men post. Men often confuse love and control; control is never love.
Women realize they can get a lot of things from their man by treating him a certain way. Men who believe they can get what they want from their woman through force, control, coercion, or bribing them with money and jewels, are fools. There isn't enough money in the world to cause a woman to relinquish who she is and become a servant or a slave; she wants to be loved and will do almost anything for that. Look around you, you know I am right! She wants a leader and a friend; not a ruler!
Men who say their personalities are set at birth and unchangeable are simply too lazy or selfish to pay the price to become a better person; for themselves or for their woman. These men do not love their woman enough to be a real man. A real man sacrifices for the one he loves and thinks nothing of himself! Claiming “we are who we are” is a sad excuse for being self-centered or too lazy to modify his world to accommodate her. The result is often that she lives an empty life of "duty", while he thinks he is some little Napoleon; both are usually miserable. People feel sad for her and laugh at him!
Real men love their wives more than themselves and treat them accordingly; the result is they enjoy her respect and devotion and both will be happy. If he is trustworthy, she will trust and honor him.
Love is not a daily negotiation to get what one wants. Both must cease to think what they are getting out of their relationship and give without conditions; only then are both needs met. There are some characteristics of love that my parents taught me as a child. We were made to memorize this because of its importance. Some will recognize this. I do not believe this has ever changed. I will share:
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. Love keeps no record of wrongs.
Any relationship worth having requires lots of work; part of that work requires one to stop making excuses for why they cannot change and start making themselves better. If you say you would give your life for her, shut up and change your life for her, to be a better person for her. She is weaker than you; be a man and do what is best for her. She will reward you with her loyalty, love, affection, and probably anything else you could ever desire.
(Personality? Set at birth and unchangable!? My God, Victor! What were you thinking!?)