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I am very confident of my friends here. You are all good people; many of you are quite dear to me.
Regarding being a good neighbor...if my children were committing crimes against my neighbors, (theft, robbery, violence, bullying, vandalism), I would feel a moral obligation to take my child home and punish him. A decent father, after punishing his errant child, then goes to the neighbor and does whatever necessary to make amends. I would pay him for his loss and suffering and ask his forgiveness. If we are long-time neighbors, my neighbor will forgive me.
A problem arises with parents who are totally unaware of their child's behavior. Some children lie and deceive their parents, go behind the parent's back to do bad things. Of course, a parent wants to trust the child, to be proud of their child, so sometimes they give their child the benefit of any doubt and do not interfere; unfortunately the neighbors continue to suffer the actions of the child and the problem becomes bigger
Worse! In the US, we have parents who look away or say, "My child does nothing wrong; please stop talking badly about my child!" Some parents defend their misbehaving child and claim, "My child would never do that! He is not that kind of boy!" In this case, the child becomes worse. The neighbors continue to suffer because the parents do nothing, but eventually the child becomes a danger to himself, to this parents, and the entire community.
Unrestrained, the child becomes bolder until severe action is unavoidable. Perhaps the police come and arrest the child and throw him in prison; in the US, sometimes the neighbor finally is forced to defend himself and his home and shoots the child as he commits a crime. Here in America, every day, criminals are shot dead while committing terrible crimes against good people. Peaceful people are left with no other alternative but to defend themselves, and the law supports those who were defending themselves.
When all the evidence is revealed, there can be no denying the delinquency and actions of the uncorrected child. The grieving parents have nothing left to do but bury their beloved child whom they did not properly correct. This was an unneeded tragedy.
This is not a new story; very old. These parents could have saved their child with proper parenting, by simply taking a moral stand against his bad behavior. The lack of responsible parenting caused everyone grief, but the most pain was suffered by those parents who lost their child, who could have been saved. In addition to losing their child, parents sometimes suffer financial ruin, destruction of property, psychological distress because they did not properly act. Families are dissolved because of grief and emotional pain.
Good moral people look on sadly and say nothing, but they understand that with simple correction and good parenting, this tragedy and pain could have been avoided. Everyone would have been happier...if the parents had simply not said, "My son would never do anything like that!" Or, "Stop making accusations about my child!"
There is a big price being paid by parents these days who claim their child is doing nothing wrong; that the world maligns their innocent son. These parents have been lied to and deceived, but they still pay a price. At some point there will be no hiding the truth and these sad parents will discover the enormous cost of not listening to the neighbors.
Marina, please allow this to be posted, without fear. I have tried to tell my story without offending. You should all understand my point. Sometimes the situation requires us to rise above politics; good people should work together to do the right thing for everyone, regardless of politics. Many of you know I have a son. He was a wonderful child, but raising him was not always without event. As a father, I wanted to protect him, but sometimes it was necessary to force him to take responsibility. There was the correction part of parenting, and then there was forcing him to admit his wrong. Karl has turned out to be a magnificent young man, who respects and loves others, protects the weak and encourages those who need it. I was proud to take this picture with him this past weekend.
When we are good parents and do the proper thing, we have a much better chance of getting good results.
I consider you all my friends; not virtual friends. I have no dog in this fight; I have my own issues at home. Our child here in the US is out of control and soon must be spanked! We, his parents are not amused with his behavior, or that of his friends. We have been patient, but our neighbors are suffering and complaining. We are very angry at our child's horrible misbehavior, but not our neighbors who suffer. Our Constitution allows us to spank our politicians. Big spanking coming in November! (Remember, you first heard about it from me! Ha! )
Regarding being a good neighbor...if my children were committing crimes against my neighbors, (theft, robbery, violence, bullying, vandalism), I would feel a moral obligation to take my child home and punish him. A decent father, after punishing his errant child, then goes to the neighbor and does whatever necessary to make amends. I would pay him for his loss and suffering and ask his forgiveness. If we are long-time neighbors, my neighbor will forgive me.
A problem arises with parents who are totally unaware of their child's behavior. Some children lie and deceive their parents, go behind the parent's back to do bad things. Of course, a parent wants to trust the child, to be proud of their child, so sometimes they give their child the benefit of any doubt and do not interfere; unfortunately the neighbors continue to suffer the actions of the child and the problem becomes bigger
Worse! In the US, we have parents who look away or say, "My child does nothing wrong; please stop talking badly about my child!" Some parents defend their misbehaving child and claim, "My child would never do that! He is not that kind of boy!" In this case, the child becomes worse. The neighbors continue to suffer because the parents do nothing, but eventually the child becomes a danger to himself, to this parents, and the entire community.
Unrestrained, the child becomes bolder until severe action is unavoidable. Perhaps the police come and arrest the child and throw him in prison; in the US, sometimes the neighbor finally is forced to defend himself and his home and shoots the child as he commits a crime. Here in America, every day, criminals are shot dead while committing terrible crimes against good people. Peaceful people are left with no other alternative but to defend themselves, and the law supports those who were defending themselves.
When all the evidence is revealed, there can be no denying the delinquency and actions of the uncorrected child. The grieving parents have nothing left to do but bury their beloved child whom they did not properly correct. This was an unneeded tragedy.
This is not a new story; very old. These parents could have saved their child with proper parenting, by simply taking a moral stand against his bad behavior. The lack of responsible parenting caused everyone grief, but the most pain was suffered by those parents who lost their child, who could have been saved. In addition to losing their child, parents sometimes suffer financial ruin, destruction of property, psychological distress because they did not properly act. Families are dissolved because of grief and emotional pain.
Good moral people look on sadly and say nothing, but they understand that with simple correction and good parenting, this tragedy and pain could have been avoided. Everyone would have been happier...if the parents had simply not said, "My son would never do anything like that!" Or, "Stop making accusations about my child!"
There is a big price being paid by parents these days who claim their child is doing nothing wrong; that the world maligns their innocent son. These parents have been lied to and deceived, but they still pay a price. At some point there will be no hiding the truth and these sad parents will discover the enormous cost of not listening to the neighbors.
Marina, please allow this to be posted, without fear. I have tried to tell my story without offending. You should all understand my point. Sometimes the situation requires us to rise above politics; good people should work together to do the right thing for everyone, regardless of politics. Many of you know I have a son. He was a wonderful child, but raising him was not always without event. As a father, I wanted to protect him, but sometimes it was necessary to force him to take responsibility. There was the correction part of parenting, and then there was forcing him to admit his wrong. Karl has turned out to be a magnificent young man, who respects and loves others, protects the weak and encourages those who need it. I was proud to take this picture with him this past weekend.
When we are good parents and do the proper thing, we have a much better chance of getting good results.
I consider you all my friends; not virtual friends. I have no dog in this fight; I have my own issues at home. Our child here in the US is out of control and soon must be spanked! We, his parents are not amused with his behavior, or that of his friends. We have been patient, but our neighbors are suffering and complaining. We are very angry at our child's horrible misbehavior, but not our neighbors who suffer. Our Constitution allows us to spank our politicians. Big spanking coming in November! (Remember, you first heard about it from me! Ha! )
07.09.14
