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Esti, I recall another guy posting on this page, my first week. Probably only Helga would remember all the details, but I will do my best. (Helga remembers everything 😏
His first forum appearance, "Gary" announced himself and showed casual photos. He was not unattractive, but un-kempt. He did not appear as a man ready for a date; maybe to apply for a job as a garbage truck driver. I have seen better-groomed homeless people in Philadelphia. After announcing he may look a little scruffy, he assured the girls he kept himself clean.
In his 30s or 40s, he had a moustache, long beard and waist-length "rasta braids" that looked like great tenticles protruding out of his head, all protected by a straw hat; I can only imagine the investment in that "hair". He stated he was disabled, confined to a wheelchair and had no savings; however, he would soon be receiving a modest disability check that came twice a month and if they were careful he and "some lucky girl" could live happily in his "paid for" mountain cabin. He then proceeded to list age, height, weight, and a host of related requirements, concluding with a statement that, in no uncertain terms, would he even consider getting a haircut.
Gary had sent 300 form letters to 300 hand-chosen women from the galleries and waited three weeks for the expected flood of responses. Since it was the "Share the Advice" forum, he was asking the group, “Why, after sending out 300 of these letters, had he received only one response from one girl?”
I imagined myself in some room with all these women, looking around at each other, everyone afraid to speak first, biting their lip to keep from laughing. At the time, having just reprimanded Tatyana’s newest client, I wasn’t sure I wanted to answer two complex questions in a row, but finally I ventured what seemed to me to be most obvious answer:
“Gary, maybe the one girl who responded was blind!“
We should laugh often at life to smooth the rough places in the road. Sometimes I wear a beard; I don’t like shaving. It is neat and close-cut. For 35 years, I have worn a mustache. For over three decades, no one has seen my upper lip; however, am also aware how many Slavic girls feel about facial hair. Heck, many Slavic men even shave their heads! I guarantee, if some beautiful, wonderful girl were to show me the right attention and that were even a consideration for her, that mustache would be off so fast- it would be gone in 20 minutes! I would keep the razor blades in the cupboard, just in case!
I have learned the hard way, there are far worse things than not being married. One of those is being married to a selfish, pompous, ignorant jerk, who is not your intellectual equal, but still demands control of your life. Many Russian and Ukrainian wives in the US are insanely happy with their new man and home; but some are now living in a worse hell and pray they could be back in their home country with friends and family whom they love.
I encourage you to never be afraid to make reasonable demands in a relationship. Demand respect, maintain your pride and hold men accountable. Your "self-esteem" is critical to your happiness, and it is your business; any man who cares about you, should sense if your self-esteem is low and quickly build you up, without being asked, out of the compassion in his heart. Never confuse love and control, or you will never experience tenderness; a great percentage of men fail here; you don't want this. If he will not be held accountable, dump him. You are too good for that. Just my thoughts...oh, and yes, read "Men are from Mars; Women are From Venus!
His first forum appearance, "Gary" announced himself and showed casual photos. He was not unattractive, but un-kempt. He did not appear as a man ready for a date; maybe to apply for a job as a garbage truck driver. I have seen better-groomed homeless people in Philadelphia. After announcing he may look a little scruffy, he assured the girls he kept himself clean.
In his 30s or 40s, he had a moustache, long beard and waist-length "rasta braids" that looked like great tenticles protruding out of his head, all protected by a straw hat; I can only imagine the investment in that "hair". He stated he was disabled, confined to a wheelchair and had no savings; however, he would soon be receiving a modest disability check that came twice a month and if they were careful he and "some lucky girl" could live happily in his "paid for" mountain cabin. He then proceeded to list age, height, weight, and a host of related requirements, concluding with a statement that, in no uncertain terms, would he even consider getting a haircut.
Gary had sent 300 form letters to 300 hand-chosen women from the galleries and waited three weeks for the expected flood of responses. Since it was the "Share the Advice" forum, he was asking the group, “Why, after sending out 300 of these letters, had he received only one response from one girl?”
I imagined myself in some room with all these women, looking around at each other, everyone afraid to speak first, biting their lip to keep from laughing. At the time, having just reprimanded Tatyana’s newest client, I wasn’t sure I wanted to answer two complex questions in a row, but finally I ventured what seemed to me to be most obvious answer:
“Gary, maybe the one girl who responded was blind!“
We should laugh often at life to smooth the rough places in the road. Sometimes I wear a beard; I don’t like shaving. It is neat and close-cut. For 35 years, I have worn a mustache. For over three decades, no one has seen my upper lip; however, am also aware how many Slavic girls feel about facial hair. Heck, many Slavic men even shave their heads! I guarantee, if some beautiful, wonderful girl were to show me the right attention and that were even a consideration for her, that mustache would be off so fast- it would be gone in 20 minutes! I would keep the razor blades in the cupboard, just in case!
I have learned the hard way, there are far worse things than not being married. One of those is being married to a selfish, pompous, ignorant jerk, who is not your intellectual equal, but still demands control of your life. Many Russian and Ukrainian wives in the US are insanely happy with their new man and home; but some are now living in a worse hell and pray they could be back in their home country with friends and family whom they love.
I encourage you to never be afraid to make reasonable demands in a relationship. Demand respect, maintain your pride and hold men accountable. Your "self-esteem" is critical to your happiness, and it is your business; any man who cares about you, should sense if your self-esteem is low and quickly build you up, without being asked, out of the compassion in his heart. Never confuse love and control, or you will never experience tenderness; a great percentage of men fail here; you don't want this. If he will not be held accountable, dump him. You are too good for that. Just my thoughts...oh, and yes, read "Men are from Mars; Women are From Venus!