Dear Tatiana, I must ask if you are writing your doctoral dissertation on worthless, slovenly, irresponsible and manipulative men? You have choked the auto-translator.

It appears you have had some bad experiences. To read your post, one might think there are not any good men left in the world. That is probably untrue; there are still many pictures of happy couples on the “Happy Couples” page.

If I were to share with all the strange, unfair, deceitful, mean experiences I have had on this site, there are a lot of disappointments, but that goes with the territory, my dear. I wish I had a dollar for every woman who told me they were serious, only wanted a serious relationship and were also telling two other men the same thing. But that is not who all women are and one must have faith and keep going.

It is not worth writing about disappointments caused by two-faced people, deceitful people. It is better to discard the ones that are no good and find the one who is. If you dwell on this, when any new man comes into your life, you will automatically start thinking into which one of these categories you must place him; that is not fair to either of you. Do not allow the losers of the past rob you of a happy future.

That fact is, Tania, disappointment is part of normal life. People are often undependable, but you cannot become angry and throw them all into one pile and then set the pile on fire. That does not hurt them; it only hurts you. Keep your chin up and do not become perpetually angry inside because others have been unfair to you. You are a good lady; there is someone for you.