When did the subject of intellectual agility enter the discussion? Was not mentioned. Even smart people can become victims of another's fickle emotions. Also, what does Gajanan means by “here?" I have been “here” on the site for over 2 years and have noticed no profound difference between the actions of reckless men “here” and other places I have been…like “there!”
Selfishness is the problem. If I am wrong, please correct me, but “here” I mostly see adulterous men taking advantage of an unfair higher female to male ratio and betraying their partner and child. Selfish men eventually live to regret their catastrophically bad judgment. Sadly, their irresponsibility and ego crushes more than the sincere girl who gave her heart; sometimes there is another, tiny heart that also suffers.
The concept that somehow a poor relationship will be corrected by the introduction of children is a misconception. I have found that introducing a child into a bad marriage usually exacerbates pre-existing problems. Sometimes, a child will cause a couple to work harder at their marriage, for the sake of the child, but the incentive of a child was never needed for them to invest the required effort into saving or building their relationship. All decent relationships are hard work; if both do not work at it, it dies.
I agree with Salvatore; selfishness and irresponsibility occur regardless of geography or culture. To me, egocentricity is a mental disorder; selfish people are rarely ever satisfied; they are perpetually unhappy. Any women who accepts this trait in a man places herself, her child or any future children at severe risk. Honey, it is not worth it, just to have a man. Relationships do not survive selfishness; if you somehow do survive it, you and those you love will pay for it for the rest of your lives, unless there is a fundamental change.
When I first came to the site, I had already been a single father and raised a great young man (picture on my profile ); however, I was always open to meeting a beautiful young mother with a child. In a TV special, I had seen these special ladies and their sweet kids interviewed and was always willing to give two deserving people the happiest lives I could afford. To my embarrassment, many men reject the child of their so-called female "love", sometimes forcing her to make decisions she should never have to face. A man is supposed to protect the one he loves, not crush her heart right out of the starting gate.
Ladies, you all need a generous man, who desires to pour good things into your life; if your man does not have a soft, generous heart, you are crazy to accept him. You can easily discern his nature by watching how he treats your child. Yes, of course you want a man who excitedly sees the beauty in you, but who also can’t wait to meet your child, who is an extension of your beauty. Women need a strong man with a tender heart; if his heart is not tender toward your child, he will never treat you properly, either. Be glad you have a child that can help you determine the worthiness of a potential partner.
Men! Don’t be selfish. I too was once young (yes…hard to believe, isn’t it!), with personal goals and have accomplished many things. Nothing compares to the most rewarding, fulfilling, noble accomplishment in my life; successfully raising a young man and proudly saluting him at his military graduation. If I have ever done anything worthwhile in my life, it was raising this young man. If men ignore a beautiful young woman because she has a precious child, you make yourselves the biggest loser! Grow up!!! Of course, as always...just my opinion...