I am in my 40s, so cannot speak for older men, but I can give my own perspective. I think age is certainly a relative thing and not an absolute. I am looking for a woman younger than myself, because I would like to have a child still. And because I like a full and active life. I engage in sports and outdoor activities and do not like to sit on the couch and drink beer and watch TV. I was married to a girl from Minsk for 10 years. She was aomewhat younger than myself, but seemed older at times, because she wanted to sit at home and drink wine and watch TV. I wanted to learn scuba or go hiking. I am not looking specifically for a girl who is 22 or 24, because I want someone with maturity and some experience in life, but at the same time I am also looking for someone with a youthful personality and active lifestyle. Does that mean I would not be interested to meet a mature 23 year old who has similar interests, goals and values? Of course not. Because I list my preferences as up to 35, does that mean I would not be interested to meet a woman who was 40 who liked an active lifestyle, energetic and interested in similar activities also? Of course not. I think people get too caught up in numbers. Everyone is different and we need to look at people as individuals. It is similar to the obsession with the weight. The number is not as relevant as the health and muscle weighs more than fat. I think the biggest problem is unrealistic expectations in people. There is a big difference between that and confidence.