The financial questions are the most difficult in any relationship and it is important to have financial discussions (several) during the development of the relationship and into the marriage. I believe that failure to do this complately with my last girlfriend is what ended that relationship.
There are many issues in this topic though, including that the woman is not likely to be able to work for some time, unless close to fluent in the language or going to an area with many Russian-speaking people. And the costs for visas, tickets, transfers, etc, including all the documents within the country for immigration must be taken into account as well. It always seems to be more than expected and so the man should plan for more than what he first thinks.
That being said, I think the man should bear the brunt of the financial responsibility for the family. That does not mean the wife should not or could not work. That is a decision that will depend upon them and upon circumstances which change, such as existing children, new births, language issues, etc. I think the wife should work if she wants to do so, but this should be money for her to use and extra for the family. In my past marriage, I paid the household bills, and my ex-wife's income paid for extras like new furniture, remodeling the room. This was not a hard and fast rule and we did not split our incomes, rather combined them with the budget plans.
A budegt is very important. Knowing how much money is coming into the family and how much is being spent should be important to the wife and it should be an open discussion. My last girlfriend was used to being paid monthly and so had difficulty in understanding the budgeting when I was paid every week from my job. She was used to momey at one time and then determingin where it went instead of a more steady stream of income and not always having a large chunk of cash at one time, despite a good income.
Another important thing is to be open with the wife about what expectations are and how much money can be spent. It's not right to make promises that cannot be kept, but it is also not right to expect more than is possible, especially when there must be plans for future savings, wedding costs, travel etc.
Money is one of the biggest causes of strife in a relationship and some of this comes from the core ideas about family life beteen women and men. Women by nature search for stability and security and men tend more toward risk and unknown and so the men who especially are bringing a woman to a new country have to make their woman feel secure enough to not make an already stressful situation even more stressful. At the same time, the woman must realize (and I am talking about a man who is middle-class, if rich, it's a different topic entirely), that the expenses involved in the moving, wedding, immigration are temporary but will affect the lifestyle to some degree in the immediate short term, whether this is reducing the savings or expenses or whatever and that it doesn't mean it will continue. My last girlfriend was very frugal in general, but once she moved to me for a several month visit, it seemed like the talk about saving for a wedding and honeymoon went out the window and all she wanted to do was shop. This is not reasonable nor practical and certainly not sustainable for long without problems.
There is no way to completely avoid all misunderstandings and mistakes, because we are all different and we all have slightly different ideas but the most important thing is to be open and honest. Because money has a way of causing problems even when precautions are taken.
There are many issues in this topic though, including that the woman is not likely to be able to work for some time, unless close to fluent in the language or going to an area with many Russian-speaking people. And the costs for visas, tickets, transfers, etc, including all the documents within the country for immigration must be taken into account as well. It always seems to be more than expected and so the man should plan for more than what he first thinks.
That being said, I think the man should bear the brunt of the financial responsibility for the family. That does not mean the wife should not or could not work. That is a decision that will depend upon them and upon circumstances which change, such as existing children, new births, language issues, etc. I think the wife should work if she wants to do so, but this should be money for her to use and extra for the family. In my past marriage, I paid the household bills, and my ex-wife's income paid for extras like new furniture, remodeling the room. This was not a hard and fast rule and we did not split our incomes, rather combined them with the budget plans.
A budegt is very important. Knowing how much money is coming into the family and how much is being spent should be important to the wife and it should be an open discussion. My last girlfriend was used to being paid monthly and so had difficulty in understanding the budgeting when I was paid every week from my job. She was used to momey at one time and then determingin where it went instead of a more steady stream of income and not always having a large chunk of cash at one time, despite a good income.
Another important thing is to be open with the wife about what expectations are and how much money can be spent. It's not right to make promises that cannot be kept, but it is also not right to expect more than is possible, especially when there must be plans for future savings, wedding costs, travel etc.
Money is one of the biggest causes of strife in a relationship and some of this comes from the core ideas about family life beteen women and men. Women by nature search for stability and security and men tend more toward risk and unknown and so the men who especially are bringing a woman to a new country have to make their woman feel secure enough to not make an already stressful situation even more stressful. At the same time, the woman must realize (and I am talking about a man who is middle-class, if rich, it's a different topic entirely), that the expenses involved in the moving, wedding, immigration are temporary but will affect the lifestyle to some degree in the immediate short term, whether this is reducing the savings or expenses or whatever and that it doesn't mean it will continue. My last girlfriend was very frugal in general, but once she moved to me for a several month visit, it seemed like the talk about saving for a wedding and honeymoon went out the window and all she wanted to do was shop. This is not reasonable nor practical and certainly not sustainable for long without problems.
There is no way to completely avoid all misunderstandings and mistakes, because we are all different and we all have slightly different ideas but the most important thing is to be open and honest. Because money has a way of causing problems even when precautions are taken.