I think he has some good points, but please realize that this is also his opinion and perhaps a cultural opinion as well for people from South Africa.
1. Another possibility is the simple lack of suitable husbands. There is still a predominance of females in FSU countries and add in the frequency of alcohol abuse and the FSU women don't necessarily WANT to look outside their country, but HAVE to, in many cases.
2. There are women everywhere who want money, just as there are plenty of FSU women who would be satisfied with a good, solid, stable life. Psychological tests indicate that a women's strongest needs are stability and love. It does not take a rich man to provide both.
3. FSU culture generally seems to have a "mothering", family oriented quality to it. They aspire to be mothers as well as having careers, but often being a mother is first. The argument her is a fallacy based on subjective opinion.
4. Perceptions are difficult to change. There are deceitful people everywhere. You can often find the scammers or the desperate people if they claim love immediately. FSU women seem to be more reserved in this case and I have never met a girl who was serious about the relations who commented about love or commitment in the first few letters. Also whether in a good, bad or middle financial situation, the girls would not ask for money or gifts. If they do immediately, you can likely determine you are dealing with a scammer in some form. Once you become serious, that is a different situation. Usually the first issue that arises in a serious relationship is language classes, if she does not speak you language. Helping her with these is the first step to providing some support for your girl. If she doesn't speak English (for example), but wants a gift or money before language classes, think twice. Once you are serious and certainly after meeting, there are plenty of opportunities to help.
As for photos, generally, you get what you advertise for. There is a difference between a picture in a swim suit and in lingerie, even though they may be showing the same about of skin. The intent is the difference and you will get the guy you are advertising for. I generally want to see that a girl is fit and trim and love a nice swim suit shot, but am generally turned off by a "boob or butt shot". I am looking for a nice girl who will be my wife. Not looking for a date. Of course I would like for her to have a cute popachka, but flashing a picture of it is just going to get you a guy looking for sex only.
As for make-up, that is a matter of opinion also. I happen to like the modern polish, lipsticks and eyeliner. I love the streaked and highlighted hair, even a funky color can be cool. So feel free to express yourself, whether classic or modern. But he is right that we will make our first decision with the eyes. Have the very best profile picture you can have. And my advice: SMILE!
Obviously there are different cultural expectations for me and I think there are generational expectations as well. However, I think we should not try to conform to what others expect of us, but be ourselves. Our personalities are what make us unique!
1. Another possibility is the simple lack of suitable husbands. There is still a predominance of females in FSU countries and add in the frequency of alcohol abuse and the FSU women don't necessarily WANT to look outside their country, but HAVE to, in many cases.
2. There are women everywhere who want money, just as there are plenty of FSU women who would be satisfied with a good, solid, stable life. Psychological tests indicate that a women's strongest needs are stability and love. It does not take a rich man to provide both.
3. FSU culture generally seems to have a "mothering", family oriented quality to it. They aspire to be mothers as well as having careers, but often being a mother is first. The argument her is a fallacy based on subjective opinion.
4. Perceptions are difficult to change. There are deceitful people everywhere. You can often find the scammers or the desperate people if they claim love immediately. FSU women seem to be more reserved in this case and I have never met a girl who was serious about the relations who commented about love or commitment in the first few letters. Also whether in a good, bad or middle financial situation, the girls would not ask for money or gifts. If they do immediately, you can likely determine you are dealing with a scammer in some form. Once you become serious, that is a different situation. Usually the first issue that arises in a serious relationship is language classes, if she does not speak you language. Helping her with these is the first step to providing some support for your girl. If she doesn't speak English (for example), but wants a gift or money before language classes, think twice. Once you are serious and certainly after meeting, there are plenty of opportunities to help.
As for photos, generally, you get what you advertise for. There is a difference between a picture in a swim suit and in lingerie, even though they may be showing the same about of skin. The intent is the difference and you will get the guy you are advertising for. I generally want to see that a girl is fit and trim and love a nice swim suit shot, but am generally turned off by a "boob or butt shot". I am looking for a nice girl who will be my wife. Not looking for a date. Of course I would like for her to have a cute popachka, but flashing a picture of it is just going to get you a guy looking for sex only.
As for make-up, that is a matter of opinion also. I happen to like the modern polish, lipsticks and eyeliner. I love the streaked and highlighted hair, even a funky color can be cool. So feel free to express yourself, whether classic or modern. But he is right that we will make our first decision with the eyes. Have the very best profile picture you can have. And my advice: SMILE!
Obviously there are different cultural expectations for me and I think there are generational expectations as well. However, I think we should not try to conform to what others expect of us, but be ourselves. Our personalities are what make us unique!