Yes , I understand , that you don`t control , his life , or other facts. But , to wait , so long , for real serious changes , to happen , is not going to make you feel better. I think , that you don`t know , what to do.Maybe , you love him very much. But , if he doesn`t know this , or cannot see , that it is something , very important , for you , as a woman , then I don`t think , that he deserves you , to be his future wife. You should really make up your mind , about this.Like you say , time goes by , and you are not getting any younger. You can try , one final thing.That is , when you really want to start a new life with him. Give him 3 months , to decide , if he wants to marry you , or not. If the 3 months pass by , without , any progress , I would put an end , to this "relation" (if you can call it a relation). And , look (seek) , for a more confident and serious man. I believe , that there are enough , candidates , out there , who want to be your husband. You just need to find him. I hope this helps Good luck Eric