Hello Elvira , So , you are not married with him ?? Or you had a wedding ?? In your country , or in Holland ?? Yes , it is a bit more complicated , when your partner , already had a marriage , and is now divorced.With children. There are many things , to consider , and to take notice of. So , is visiting the children , or go with them , on day trips.Or going to the hospital , when they are there , for some cure. Well , all the normal things.And you need to adjust , yourself , to the varying situations. Of course , marriage , is a important happening , and it brings , a lot of responsibility. Although , I did not made that step , I was close to it , one time , in the past. I understand , that , when your family , is against it , it will make things , more dramatic for you. And , only you , will know , what is the best. So , I wish you , much wisdom and a clear mind , to make the right decisions. Maybe , just as a positive note , life in Holland , is not so bad. Once , you have adjust yourself to it. Take care Eric