Mikaela , Well I don't send a wink if I am sure that I will not respond to an answer of the woman. Why other men do this ? I can't say. But I believe that it depends on what you say and how you say it , when you send them a reply. It is also important to know if these men are a paying member or just a standard member. Standard members CAN NOT send or read letters from women .... So , you need to check what type of member they are. It also may help , to look from what country they are. I hope that you will have success and find the right man. Eric