Patrik ,
These stories are more or less a bit difficult to answer.The first thing , which is key here , is how did you experienced your first meeting with her.
Was there a translator present or is she speaking English ?I am sure that you did observe her , what could you make up from her behaviour and her body language ?
How did the next dates go ?Did she took you to some shops to buy her gifts ?
It is always some sort of indication , when you are looking at nice things in the shops , on your 2nd or 3rd date.
While you should be spending time to know each other better .....
She also came to you 2 times and you also have been on holidays.Understand that your life in comparison to the life that she had until now , is with a great contrast.
The luxury that you have , living in a rich Western country , is probably a dream for her , for many years.
It is understandable that she is wanting to let you show to her , that you want to be with her , for who she is.
Furthermore , in their culture it's normal that their man will spoil her a little bit.
On the other hand , you should be clear to her , that you have limits as to what you want to spend.
Seeking a woman from EE or Russia involves to learn about their customs and traditions.You did not say if you have met her parents and other relatives.
To have a good start in your relation , after the initial dates ,you should over think , if the relation has moved up to the next level.
I am sure that you will have some idea , how the relation is evolving.
I am also sure that you have asked her , in the first 5 dates , how she feels about having another child - since you want to create a family.
I don't know the circumstances , but here it seems to me , that your part of the job is/was not handled correct.
I'm by no means an experienced online dater.But I did spent a lot of time to learn about the traditions and customs from EE/Russian people.
Knowing about their daily life and family ties may get you a long way.
Unfortunately , as I have said some times before ,
Western men think that you only need to register and communicate with an EE/Russian woman.
Then go to meet her and all will be fine!That is wrong ...
Understand how a traditional EE/Russian woman feels , thinks and observes Western men.
Realize that you are the stranger , and should adept to her customs.
When meeting with her parents , it will help if you know their traditions.
Since you may have mentioned to her that you have your own business , you may expect that she wants you to spoil her a little bit.
Furthermore I want to say that I believe that there are honest girls/women here.
She may have 2 apartments , and maybe the other needs some renovation (which will cost money).
But the costs for gas/electricity will go on every month.Which will let her nett income drop (significantly?).
And with 2 children life is getting really hard.
From her prospective I can understand her behaviour.
The first thing to understand is that on the first meeting , you must ask the right questions.
And you should be really honest in answering her questions to you.
Online dating is a lenghty process.If you are thinking/believing that you can/will be married in 6 months after the first meeting , think again.
Well , yes miracles can happen ..... but what are your chances for that ??
Instead of being hasty take your time to know her very well!
I already mentioned it - the song from Percy Sledge (father from Sister Sledge) : It takes time to know her
So true .............
Eric
These stories are more or less a bit difficult to answer.The first thing , which is key here , is how did you experienced your first meeting with her.
Was there a translator present or is she speaking English ?I am sure that you did observe her , what could you make up from her behaviour and her body language ?
How did the next dates go ?Did she took you to some shops to buy her gifts ?
It is always some sort of indication , when you are looking at nice things in the shops , on your 2nd or 3rd date.
While you should be spending time to know each other better .....
She also came to you 2 times and you also have been on holidays.Understand that your life in comparison to the life that she had until now , is with a great contrast.
The luxury that you have , living in a rich Western country , is probably a dream for her , for many years.
It is understandable that she is wanting to let you show to her , that you want to be with her , for who she is.
Furthermore , in their culture it's normal that their man will spoil her a little bit.
On the other hand , you should be clear to her , that you have limits as to what you want to spend.
Seeking a woman from EE or Russia involves to learn about their customs and traditions.You did not say if you have met her parents and other relatives.
To have a good start in your relation , after the initial dates ,you should over think , if the relation has moved up to the next level.
I am sure that you will have some idea , how the relation is evolving.
I am also sure that you have asked her , in the first 5 dates , how she feels about having another child - since you want to create a family.
I don't know the circumstances , but here it seems to me , that your part of the job is/was not handled correct.
I'm by no means an experienced online dater.But I did spent a lot of time to learn about the traditions and customs from EE/Russian people.
Knowing about their daily life and family ties may get you a long way.
Unfortunately , as I have said some times before ,
Western men think that you only need to register and communicate with an EE/Russian woman.
Then go to meet her and all will be fine!That is wrong ...
Understand how a traditional EE/Russian woman feels , thinks and observes Western men.
Realize that you are the stranger , and should adept to her customs.
When meeting with her parents , it will help if you know their traditions.
Since you may have mentioned to her that you have your own business , you may expect that she wants you to spoil her a little bit.
Furthermore I want to say that I believe that there are honest girls/women here.
She may have 2 apartments , and maybe the other needs some renovation (which will cost money).
But the costs for gas/electricity will go on every month.Which will let her nett income drop (significantly?).
And with 2 children life is getting really hard.
From her prospective I can understand her behaviour.
The first thing to understand is that on the first meeting , you must ask the right questions.
And you should be really honest in answering her questions to you.
Online dating is a lenghty process.If you are thinking/believing that you can/will be married in 6 months after the first meeting , think again.
Well , yes miracles can happen ..... but what are your chances for that ??
Instead of being hasty take your time to know her very well!
I already mentioned it - the song from Percy Sledge (father from Sister Sledge) : It takes time to know her
So true .............
Eric