David , What he wanted to pay and what gifts he bought for her , is his own free decision. I'm not going to discuss that. What I have asked him and he didn't answer is , if he asked her on the first or second , third or 4th date , what her ideas were or are , to have (another) child. Since he says that he wants to have a family.As an adult , I guess that he is mature enough to verify certain issues , while he or they are in the process of getting to know each other better. When after some while , you complain that it was not what you did expect , I ask you who is to blame for it ?? Did he not asked the really important questions ?How many dates did he had with her , before he took her on a holiday ? Was there a reason to take her on a holiday , and buy her gifts , so quickly after some dates ? To me it is not making any sense ........ Unless , of course , he wants to wave around with his wallet. Men with this behaviour and complaining afterwards , do they really expect to get an answer from these women , that will praise his ego ? I wonder .....