Hi Robert ,
I`m not sure how long you are on the site.Neither do I know , if you have met Slavic women.
I mean to say , if you have been to Slavic countries and have met /spoken with women / girls.
If you have personal experience with talking to Slavic women , you should have noticed the differences , between them and Western women /girls.
If you don`t have personal experience with conversations with Slavic women ,then there are some things that you will need to learn.
As you stated , you don`t understand the mentality of Slavic people.
Oh , yes , not understanding them , is one of the easiest and biggest mistakes , that foreigners make.
Having said that , I don`t know , of course , which women you have chosen to start a conversation with.
Take note of what Ekaterina and Yuliya have said.It has everything to do , with the mindset and mentality of Slavic people /women.
Since you have a learning curve to go through , I would suggest to be really , really very patient.
If you have a chance , read all or almost all about their culture and their tradition.
One other important thing , that most foreign men seem to miss , is that you should /must read between the lines.
Since you are a complete stranger , to these women , don`t expect them to be fully open , or that they will believe everything that you tell them.
Even though you may have the best intentions.And you may be really honest and trust worthy.
But how would they know ?How can they tell ?How will you prove to them , that you are sincere , will it show in your letters ??
Yes , you as the man , the future leader of the family , you should , no , you must take the initiative.
Remember this.When the day will come , that she will introduce you , to her parents , they will observe you.
And they will check , if you are in the lead.If you can take the initiative.
It is not only about your conversation.It is also about your body language.
Can you be the leader.Can you be the head of the family.
They will observe , if you understand , what is expected from you.If you can /will support your future wife /family.
Sure , a relationship , also must have dialogue and conversation.But the man should know his role in this.
That is according to Slavic traditions.
I will give just an example.With a Slavic girlfriend , we bought some presents for one of her very good female friends.
Presents for the girlfriend and for her little children.
And , guess what.
She told me , that I must give the presents to her friend.
Why ?? Because I am the man.I am the leader.
On another occasion , we bought some presents for her sister and her brother - in - law.
And before we entered her sister`s house , she said , that I must give the presents to her sister and the sister`s husband.
You don`t have to find this strange , because that is how it is.
When you will have a relationship with a Slavic woman , she will tell you this also.
A Slavic woman , she knows her role in a relation and in a marriage.
Of course , there must always be mutual respect and trust.
Hopes this gives you an idea ...
You are not going to change this.
I`m not sure how long you are on the site.Neither do I know , if you have met Slavic women.
I mean to say , if you have been to Slavic countries and have met /spoken with women / girls.
If you have personal experience with talking to Slavic women , you should have noticed the differences , between them and Western women /girls.
If you don`t have personal experience with conversations with Slavic women ,then there are some things that you will need to learn.
As you stated , you don`t understand the mentality of Slavic people.
Oh , yes , not understanding them , is one of the easiest and biggest mistakes , that foreigners make.
Having said that , I don`t know , of course , which women you have chosen to start a conversation with.
Take note of what Ekaterina and Yuliya have said.It has everything to do , with the mindset and mentality of Slavic people /women.
Since you have a learning curve to go through , I would suggest to be really , really very patient.
If you have a chance , read all or almost all about their culture and their tradition.
One other important thing , that most foreign men seem to miss , is that you should /must read between the lines.
Since you are a complete stranger , to these women , don`t expect them to be fully open , or that they will believe everything that you tell them.
Even though you may have the best intentions.And you may be really honest and trust worthy.
But how would they know ?How can they tell ?How will you prove to them , that you are sincere , will it show in your letters ??
Yes , you as the man , the future leader of the family , you should , no , you must take the initiative.
Remember this.When the day will come , that she will introduce you , to her parents , they will observe you.
And they will check , if you are in the lead.If you can take the initiative.
It is not only about your conversation.It is also about your body language.
Can you be the leader.Can you be the head of the family.
They will observe , if you understand , what is expected from you.If you can /will support your future wife /family.
Sure , a relationship , also must have dialogue and conversation.But the man should know his role in this.
That is according to Slavic traditions.
I will give just an example.With a Slavic girlfriend , we bought some presents for one of her very good female friends.
Presents for the girlfriend and for her little children.
And , guess what.
She told me , that I must give the presents to her friend.
Why ?? Because I am the man.I am the leader.
On another occasion , we bought some presents for her sister and her brother - in - law.
And before we entered her sister`s house , she said , that I must give the presents to her sister and the sister`s husband.
You don`t have to find this strange , because that is how it is.
When you will have a relationship with a Slavic woman , she will tell you this also.
A Slavic woman , she knows her role in a relation and in a marriage.
Of course , there must always be mutual respect and trust.
Hopes this gives you an idea ...
You are not going to change this.