First of all is really interesting to know women who can talk clearly about things like this, Im sure all man here wants a relationship with a woman who can tell what she want, think and feel. Answering to your question im going to talk about my experience. My last relationship was with a woman who had a 1 year old child. When i met her i thought she was smart, beauty, and many other things, but i felt afraid about how the "child situation" would go, because of many things, first because it was something new for me, another thing was because of knowledge absence about how the child would take seeing a man near to his mother (again im talking about how ive used to think), another one was that i was scared of not having compatibility with the child and thatll affect the full relationship. Continuing with my history ive had to change my mind first and then i decided to start a relationship with this girl and her child. And i found it the best thing ive ever lived all my fears wasnt true, it was the most beautiful experience, she decided to break with me because of things she couldnt manage, but while we had the relationship i understood how wonderful God is because of the child, he was like a son to me and i was like a father to him. So if a man here feels scared about this kind of relationship with a beautiful girl like all the girls here are, because she has sons/daughters I hope my experience can help to break paradigms and fears.