Hi Anna,
I think that most men do read the profiles. They may not fit the description of what you are looking for, so rather than just go on to someone else, they do a wink just to see if maybe you are interested in them. They are probably also intimidated by you since you are very attractive. In America, women as attractive as you are usually snobs and will not even look at a normal man, so men do not even want to try to talk to them since they will be rejected.
I think that many of the men on this website are probably a little shy so they will not write anything first. If they were very bold, they would find a woman in person and not even be on this website. I could be wrong, but I think that is why you are getting so many winks and from men outside your ideal description.
Good luck finding the man you want.