There are different opinions from men and women on the legal registration of a marriage (I believe using the word "marriage" you meant legal marriage) in different countries.
So I would like to give a definition of the word "marriage", to make it easier to talk about this topic.
Marriage is the Union of two equal adults, based on their voluntary choice, the Unity for a common goal, which is to build a comfortable life together with love and care for each other.
Legal marriage is a marriage, secured by the authorized state body (e.g. the department of civil status acts).
Cohabitation is also a marriage, only informal.
So, If you started to live together in the same house and decided to love, care for each other and make you union as strong as possible, you are married !!
Regardless of the legal status of your Union.
It is important to treat the Cohabitation as responsibly as an official marriage and take it very seriously, or better not to start such a coexistence. Therefore, if you have difficulties and relationship problems in your informal marriage, then you must solve them together, instead of fleeing in case of any minor problems, saying : "We're not married, we are just living together". It is not serious, that's not an excuse.
Can only the fact that their marriage is legally secured to strengthen the relationship between a man and a woman and bind them to each other forever? No, if they will not work very hard to keep their love and union!
As you can see both types of marriage involve greater effort on the part of both a man and a woman to maintain and strengthen their Union. In fact, the legal marriage changes nothing (unless people still actively care about each other).
On the other hand, if both of you seriously want to love, care for each other, live together and have children, which obstacles can be for legal registration of this Union? Such a registration is not expensive (the wedding is optional), there are some legal benefits of it (may be not many). I cannot see any harm of it.
I believe men and women have different point of view on this matter.
Men can be in the informal marriage for three reasons:
a) Some don't see the point in the legal registration ( don't want to spend money on useless wedding);
b) Consider the woman with whom they live, as a temporary option.
c) Had negative experiences of a legal marriage in the past and don't want in case of new divorce to have problems with lawyers, courts, partition of property etc. in future. This way such a man is ,in fact, pushing a new wife to pay for his own and his former wife's mistakes.
Many women live with men in informal marriage and suffer from the fact that this marriage is informal.
This suffering badly poisons those women's life, for holding them all the time in an indeterminate state. They are constantly thinking : " This man has already chosen me as his wife or I am still a temporary woman for him?
it is especially painful if a woman wants or already has children. How she can be sure that will have all sorts of support and help from her man in future?
Although, life now is much easier than in the stone age, but even now upbringing a child needs huge material, physical and mental effort and incredibly difficult for a single woman.
I don't understand the problems with the legal registration of marriage. If a man loves a woman and going to live with her all his life, than he must strive to make her life as good as possible (and vice versa). As I have written above, this is the goal and criteria of any marriage.
So, I think, If the legal marriage is very important for your BELOVED woman, (which, according to you, means nothing), then be a real man, marry her legally, give her the marriage certificate, to make her calm and happy.
So I would like to give a definition of the word "marriage", to make it easier to talk about this topic.
Marriage is the Union of two equal adults, based on their voluntary choice, the Unity for a common goal, which is to build a comfortable life together with love and care for each other.
Legal marriage is a marriage, secured by the authorized state body (e.g. the department of civil status acts).
Cohabitation is also a marriage, only informal.
So, If you started to live together in the same house and decided to love, care for each other and make you union as strong as possible, you are married !!
Regardless of the legal status of your Union.
It is important to treat the Cohabitation as responsibly as an official marriage and take it very seriously, or better not to start such a coexistence. Therefore, if you have difficulties and relationship problems in your informal marriage, then you must solve them together, instead of fleeing in case of any minor problems, saying : "We're not married, we are just living together". It is not serious, that's not an excuse.
Can only the fact that their marriage is legally secured to strengthen the relationship between a man and a woman and bind them to each other forever? No, if they will not work very hard to keep their love and union!
As you can see both types of marriage involve greater effort on the part of both a man and a woman to maintain and strengthen their Union. In fact, the legal marriage changes nothing (unless people still actively care about each other).
On the other hand, if both of you seriously want to love, care for each other, live together and have children, which obstacles can be for legal registration of this Union? Such a registration is not expensive (the wedding is optional), there are some legal benefits of it (may be not many). I cannot see any harm of it.
I believe men and women have different point of view on this matter.
Men can be in the informal marriage for three reasons:
a) Some don't see the point in the legal registration ( don't want to spend money on useless wedding);
b) Consider the woman with whom they live, as a temporary option.
c) Had negative experiences of a legal marriage in the past and don't want in case of new divorce to have problems with lawyers, courts, partition of property etc. in future. This way such a man is ,in fact, pushing a new wife to pay for his own and his former wife's mistakes.
Many women live with men in informal marriage and suffer from the fact that this marriage is informal.
This suffering badly poisons those women's life, for holding them all the time in an indeterminate state. They are constantly thinking : " This man has already chosen me as his wife or I am still a temporary woman for him?
it is especially painful if a woman wants or already has children. How she can be sure that will have all sorts of support and help from her man in future?
Although, life now is much easier than in the stone age, but even now upbringing a child needs huge material, physical and mental effort and incredibly difficult for a single woman.
I don't understand the problems with the legal registration of marriage. If a man loves a woman and going to live with her all his life, than he must strive to make her life as good as possible (and vice versa). As I have written above, this is the goal and criteria of any marriage.
So, I think, If the legal marriage is very important for your BELOVED woman, (which, according to you, means nothing), then be a real man, marry her legally, give her the marriage certificate, to make her calm and happy.