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Respectfully Galina, this is nonsense lol
are you really trying to tell me you accept dinners from men because you are forced into this role as a dependent by society? You accept dinner from men you date because you don't want to spend your own money, why not be real about it. You don't feel like a man is the provider you want if he can't pay the bills. It is about making a man prove his worth. How can he support a wife and/or kids one day if he can't buy dinner in the first few days, it's just one of the tests we men go thru and we accept that. I dated a girl who inherited her parents estate worth in excess of 100 million and she reached for the bill exactly 0 times in 2 years. I think she picked it up to hand it to me once. If it was really about equality, for arguments sake if I made 3 times what you did, you'd reach for the bill every 4th time, but it's not about equality cause that 4th time we both know I'm getting that bill. I have 0 problem with paying for women but I am doing it for 1 of 3 reasons, respect for the woman she's my mom, grandmother, sister, aunt, friend and I want to pay for her out of respect for her OR 2 and 3 are linked, obligation to pass her tests and because nothing shuts down the possibility of sex now and in the future like making a woman open up her own wallet.
As for your point about children, totally irrelevant to your paying the bill in the first few dates. Even if I had kids which I do not, you aren't taking care of them immediately after the 1st date so it's not an issue and if your argument is that you have kids, why am I subsidizing your life choices?
Lastly about your point regarding men wanting young pretty educated women, guilty...who doesn't want that. I don't see women lining up for the fat bald ugly uneducated old man with no money given the choice either, this isn't the domain of men, he has to have assets to make him worthwhile to most women so if that is how the game is rigged in both directions and we're paying because that is the rules of this game why should we not strive to get our moneys worth? Simple economics...maximize our return on investment. There is no discount for dating women closer to our age is there? you threw it on men, that we should start dating older women and we should change society knowing full well that neither is happening soon so it's a safe position to take but if this was really important to you any time you met a man your age you could pay your share...are you? I'm guessing as you said men should always pay, that's a no... so you're what taking a political position, on behalf of women everywhere, you won't pay your share til men universally agree lol...
I'm not asking a woman to share the bill but we're grown adults we can be real about the dynamics of relationships. We don't have to pretend that relationships don't have a transactional component to them. You don't need to convince yourself with a sob story about gender inequality to admit that you think any man that you'd consider for a relationship shouldn't hesitate to pay for all your meals. If your given reasons for why men should pay were legit they would not have been refuted so easily.
are you really trying to tell me you accept dinners from men because you are forced into this role as a dependent by society? You accept dinner from men you date because you don't want to spend your own money, why not be real about it. You don't feel like a man is the provider you want if he can't pay the bills. It is about making a man prove his worth. How can he support a wife and/or kids one day if he can't buy dinner in the first few days, it's just one of the tests we men go thru and we accept that. I dated a girl who inherited her parents estate worth in excess of 100 million and she reached for the bill exactly 0 times in 2 years. I think she picked it up to hand it to me once. If it was really about equality, for arguments sake if I made 3 times what you did, you'd reach for the bill every 4th time, but it's not about equality cause that 4th time we both know I'm getting that bill. I have 0 problem with paying for women but I am doing it for 1 of 3 reasons, respect for the woman she's my mom, grandmother, sister, aunt, friend and I want to pay for her out of respect for her OR 2 and 3 are linked, obligation to pass her tests and because nothing shuts down the possibility of sex now and in the future like making a woman open up her own wallet.
As for your point about children, totally irrelevant to your paying the bill in the first few dates. Even if I had kids which I do not, you aren't taking care of them immediately after the 1st date so it's not an issue and if your argument is that you have kids, why am I subsidizing your life choices?
Lastly about your point regarding men wanting young pretty educated women, guilty...who doesn't want that. I don't see women lining up for the fat bald ugly uneducated old man with no money given the choice either, this isn't the domain of men, he has to have assets to make him worthwhile to most women so if that is how the game is rigged in both directions and we're paying because that is the rules of this game why should we not strive to get our moneys worth? Simple economics...maximize our return on investment. There is no discount for dating women closer to our age is there? you threw it on men, that we should start dating older women and we should change society knowing full well that neither is happening soon so it's a safe position to take but if this was really important to you any time you met a man your age you could pay your share...are you? I'm guessing as you said men should always pay, that's a no... so you're what taking a political position, on behalf of women everywhere, you won't pay your share til men universally agree lol...
I'm not asking a woman to share the bill but we're grown adults we can be real about the dynamics of relationships. We don't have to pretend that relationships don't have a transactional component to them. You don't need to convince yourself with a sob story about gender inequality to admit that you think any man that you'd consider for a relationship shouldn't hesitate to pay for all your meals. If your given reasons for why men should pay were legit they would not have been refuted so easily.