What you prefer is perfectly normal. As are the people who want to just have some fun, there isn't a right or wrong here... You don't need to understand why someone else would behave differently than you...what happens between consenting adults is their business...you do what you're comfortable with. The right guy for you will likely have the same attitudes about sex as you do so he won't mind waiting til that connection is made. I for example would be the wrong guy, I'd never get to weeks of conversation, I'd have checked out but that patient saint is out there somewhere