Sorry Tasha I am not sure what you're trying to say about conditions. The op said he wouldnt date a woman with kids back home which makes it pretty clear he has no desire to at the very least to take on somebody elses kids or potentially to even wants kids period so why change those parameters now? This is about a man figuring out what he wants out of life which isnt anything a woman gets to make conditions on. This should be something a man figures out about himself long before he dates anybody.