I get messages and interests by women older than me every day so I assure you it's not just men who take their shot. In the end who cares, if someone is dreaming and unrealistic and doesn't find someone who does it affect but them. If they get cheated on or used, who does it affect but them. If they find happiness who does it affect but them... So worry about yourself and let others figure out their own lives. It's not anybodies place to tell 2 adults who they should and shouldn't want or be with.