All cats love fish but fear to wet their paws? 
You're right - many women who use the trip to a man as a free vacation.
But there are as many as many men who invite them to themselves.
If you are afraid to pay women tickets for a meeting with you - come to the woman yourself.
If you are a real man.
Personally, I respect men who come to a woman.
And not all of them are sexturists.