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It's possible that the Russian man would ignore his child, but to presume that the majority of Russian men have this attitude seems naive. As an example, I would cite the recent legislative effort in Russia to limit adoptions of Russian children by the foreigners. Not only is this some evidence that Russian men do in fact care very much about children leaving Russia, but that they also care about the child whom is not theirs. Of course, politics does not define reality in msny cases, however neither does the media sources which depict Russian men as being drunks, abusive husbands, negligent fathers etc...
Furthermore, what attitude could be expected from Russian in-laws? It's extremely doubtful, the paternal grandparents would enjoy having their grandchild reside in the foreign country. And of course, there is the matter regarding Russian society, too. More time and effort might be necessary, but it always remains possible for the Russian woman to find a Russian man whom could grow to love her child. If odds are that the child would be better off living in his own country and close to his own people -- why make the child assume some unreasonable risk at hardship?
In Russia, a child can play in the park without adult supervision, but in America, this is not safe!!
Do the benefits of raising the child in the foreign country significantly outweigh those risks?
It's never an easy question for the Russian mother to answer honestly, and circumstances vary from one person to the next. For foreign men it's nearly impossible to determine a child's specific best interests. 10 or 15 years ago, when Russia was experiencing extreme economic hardship, perhaps raising the child in the foreign country was more easily justified, but now it's not the case.
Of course, there are some men whom would recklessly invest all trust and faith in the Russian woman's decision to raise the child in the foreign country. However, demonstrating such brazen disregard towards a child's relationship with his Russian father, family, country and cultural origin, etc -- this doesn't seem like the behavior that the responsible leader of a family should have.
To be clear, there are exceptions to consider, and it's why my preferences in the profile are stated thus. Parenting the child from the foreign country involves as many rewards as there are risks, but great care and caution must be applied in every case.
Furthermore, what attitude could be expected from Russian in-laws? It's extremely doubtful, the paternal grandparents would enjoy having their grandchild reside in the foreign country. And of course, there is the matter regarding Russian society, too. More time and effort might be necessary, but it always remains possible for the Russian woman to find a Russian man whom could grow to love her child. If odds are that the child would be better off living in his own country and close to his own people -- why make the child assume some unreasonable risk at hardship?
In Russia, a child can play in the park without adult supervision, but in America, this is not safe!!
Do the benefits of raising the child in the foreign country significantly outweigh those risks?
It's never an easy question for the Russian mother to answer honestly, and circumstances vary from one person to the next. For foreign men it's nearly impossible to determine a child's specific best interests. 10 or 15 years ago, when Russia was experiencing extreme economic hardship, perhaps raising the child in the foreign country was more easily justified, but now it's not the case.
Of course, there are some men whom would recklessly invest all trust and faith in the Russian woman's decision to raise the child in the foreign country. However, demonstrating such brazen disregard towards a child's relationship with his Russian father, family, country and cultural origin, etc -- this doesn't seem like the behavior that the responsible leader of a family should have.
To be clear, there are exceptions to consider, and it's why my preferences in the profile are stated thus. Parenting the child from the foreign country involves as many rewards as there are risks, but great care and caution must be applied in every case.