I totally agree personally I think it starts with a little spark then builds to a fire.
I am a carpenter and was once asked that if my late wife was a piece of timber then what type of timber would she be and I replied ...........greenheart timber .... as it is strong, hard, a little unstable especially when young and it is a nightmare to work with.....but when something is made from it ....it is strong, warm, beautifully figured and it gets more beautiful as time goes on being loved and polished.