Tatyana my sweet beautiful lady....please relax...sit down I will make you a cup of tea and rub your tired shoulders......ok..better? I think you misunderstand my expression! My reference to a barge pole is an English expression it doesn’t mean beating or poking anybody, it simply means to keep a distance in other words to exercise caution. I would quite happily fund a woman’s trip to me providing that I am certain that the woman is real. Unfortunately in this day and age I have to be careful of who I send money as there are fraudsters out there on the internet who prey on international dating. I am not accusing the woman that I have been communicating to of being a fraudster but I cannot also guarantee that she is real so I will find a way to meet that we are both comfortable. The woman I met wanted to come to me as she said that she would really love to see some of England so I said ok. I have a large house with several bedrooms so she said there would be no need for a hotel and I said ok I would be delighted to have her as my guest and I would support her stay here and take her out to see different sights.......Now listen carefully my beautiful fiery Tatyana .....more tea?.....when travelling to the uk on a standard visa you can either travel as a ‘tourist’ or a ‘visitor’ if you come as a visitor then you can explain and give evidence to the visa authorities that your visit will be payed for by the person you are staying with here in the uk. Doing it this way means that you can travel and stay here even with only a little money. Do you understand so far? .....If you travel here as a ‘tourist’ then the visa authority will want you to prove that you have the money to support yourself and so your bank would need to have a large sum of money in it to show that. If you choose the tourist option you are also breaking the conditions of your visa as you are clearly travelling to meet someone and not to just holiday. I had already sent approximately £900 pounds to pay for her flight and expenses and despite me telling her to choose the visitor option she then chose tourist, she then continued to insist that she had to have £5000 pounds in her account to satisfy the visa requirements to travel here. It would be foolish of me to send this money to anybody I have never met before especially if it is not necessary. I explained this and have heard little from her since. I have said that to meet there are other ways but have heard nothing back. Surely if she wanted to see me so bad she would have listened or replied to me in order to try to meet? Do you know that if she had funded her own trip here to meet then at the end of the two week visit I was going to surprise her and give her all her expenses back anyway. I would of done this regardless of wether or not we had formed a relationship, I would of done it as a friend because I know that compared to my salary her salary is small. Do you see now? I am not some stick, wielding sex tourist. I am a gentleman but I will not be prey. .....I hope that all this is not lost in translation. By the way I like your profile, I can see that you are a very beautiful woman, I love your fiery tempestuous mood, you seem to hate me so much it feels like love! .....Oh and by the way your horse could do with being a hand or so higher for your height x