Hi Robert, this is a mix of many things: cultural issues, differing personalities, and partially an issue with the pool of online daters. One of the peculiarities here is that yes, a woman who answers one sentence to a paragraph, doesn't ask questions, doesn't take interest in anything you say - she can be absolutely interested in you, and she'll be disappointed when you stop talking to her. Sometimes it's totally obvious within the first couple of messages that someone just isn't a talker and I agree, it's incredibly frustrating. I didn't waste my time on those people.
Occasionally it may be a matter of women being icy until you can make them open up, but as mentioned, men are expected to take the lead. Cultures clash in this sense, because I don't think it's reasonable for a woman to contribute very little to a conversation and expect it to last long. We assume that conversation should be pleasant and natural and not forced, whereas they see it differently. A reasonable person should associate a lack of initiative in conversation to a lack of success in finding someone. Here's the crux, though: the marriage rate is very high in FSU countries, and people get married early. Online dating has more of a stigma in the FSU countries than it has to the west, so there is a strong reliance on meeting people locally & physically. Local marriages favor people who have strong social ability to create those relationships, and people who are silent don't attract attention, and therefore are less likely to find their spouse.
I've been on this site for a while and I can tell you that in my experience in general, the women here in our age bracket (presumably younger than us) who are putting effort into searching are largely only here because they couldn't find anyone locally. There are exceptions, mostly women who have already spent time in the western world, women who were trained to speak foreign languages, and those who have been betrayed and expect better. But generally - great, extroverted candidates who have no problem meeting people aren't the typical female registrant here. You may get lucky by talking to a woman who just joined up from curiosity, but this site is a revolving door in which a large portion of the profiles won't be here next week, and there are lots of profiles of women who have not been chosen in the several years they've been here. Target those new profiles and hope that you find someone suitable.
Occasionally it may be a matter of women being icy until you can make them open up, but as mentioned, men are expected to take the lead. Cultures clash in this sense, because I don't think it's reasonable for a woman to contribute very little to a conversation and expect it to last long. We assume that conversation should be pleasant and natural and not forced, whereas they see it differently. A reasonable person should associate a lack of initiative in conversation to a lack of success in finding someone. Here's the crux, though: the marriage rate is very high in FSU countries, and people get married early. Online dating has more of a stigma in the FSU countries than it has to the west, so there is a strong reliance on meeting people locally & physically. Local marriages favor people who have strong social ability to create those relationships, and people who are silent don't attract attention, and therefore are less likely to find their spouse.
I've been on this site for a while and I can tell you that in my experience in general, the women here in our age bracket (presumably younger than us) who are putting effort into searching are largely only here because they couldn't find anyone locally. There are exceptions, mostly women who have already spent time in the western world, women who were trained to speak foreign languages, and those who have been betrayed and expect better. But generally - great, extroverted candidates who have no problem meeting people aren't the typical female registrant here. You may get lucky by talking to a woman who just joined up from curiosity, but this site is a revolving door in which a large portion of the profiles won't be here next week, and there are lots of profiles of women who have not been chosen in the several years they've been here. Target those new profiles and hope that you find someone suitable.