Although I find this topic very interesting I feel most get it wrong. As a society most men have gotten weaker. The days of the hunter gatherer are gone. Men now feel the need to show their strength with big muscles, power, wealth, new toys , younger women, etc. etc.
Women want equal rights, and they should have them. Woman are as capable of doing most things as a man is. But, most women desire their man to be a man at home. They want their man to have the answers, provide a sense of security, and feel that no matter what life brings, their man will handle it and see them thru it. This is the true strength of a man. As an example, my daughter, who is 19 years old, feels that no matter what happens, dad will take care it. Her strength comes from the knowledge that her dad will provide that rock for her to stand on no matter what storms life brings her way. She is confident in herself because of my steadfast love and support of her, and my ability to be strong inside about all things. This does not mean she needs me to cry with her. Although when her heart is broke, I do cry with her, but on the inside. All she see's is her dad sitting with her, comforting her, and this she draws strength from.
Why men feel the need to let all their emotions show all the time is dumb founding to me. I have my weaknesses as all do, but in the face of adversity I choose to over come them instead of wallowing in them as many do these days. Men have lost perspective on what women truly need in their lives from a man. The insecurities men show these days is astounding to a person like me. To let your wife, daughter, girl friend, see these insecurities and other weakness will always spell doom for a relationship. Women draw strength from their man, being many men these days are weak, women must be stronger than they really wish to be. The roles are reversed from what the natural order of relationships are..
Most women, want their men to be good men, true to themselves and their relationship, a place they can shelter when life is too much, or be picked up when their self esteem is low. My thoughts are a man needs to be supportive and strong in all aspects of his life. This does not mean dominating and abusive, or trying to rule over your household. A man should be supportive, accommodating, giving, and most importantly loving. But, the women in your life should know that in a time of crisis, that you are willing to pick up sword and armor, and wade into battle when necessary.
Why men are weaker these days, I do not know or even care. What I do know is that in all things, your happiness or contentment should never be based on another. I do not want or need someone to complete me. I am complete as I am. I search for someone to enhance my life, bring new perspectives, to enjoy the things in life that I enjoy or to show me new things.
I am single for reasons outside of this topic. In life we should all grow and evolve, but keep to our core values. Sometimes a relationship can not be repaired or healed, for many reasons. Sometimes life leaves no other course of action and separating is better than destroying one another. My ex and I still talk, we are friends, and she still brings her problems and concerns to me regularly.
Many men will disagree with me, I do not care. Know this, the women that read this, it will speak to their hearts and desires. Women want their men to be men, if they wanted something else they would date other women. Be strong in all you do, self evaluate your actions and motives. Learn to be the rock and not allow a paper cut to traumatize you. Have your feelings but learn how to control them and over come them. Let them show when compassion is needed but also know how to over come them when strength is needed. Emotions and feelings should never be the driving force in your life. Loving and supporting, being the source of courage and strength for those around you, these are a mans true strengths. For me, I strive to always be the calm in the storm. May you find this within you also.
Forgive me please, American-English does not always translate well on this site.
Women want equal rights, and they should have them. Woman are as capable of doing most things as a man is. But, most women desire their man to be a man at home. They want their man to have the answers, provide a sense of security, and feel that no matter what life brings, their man will handle it and see them thru it. This is the true strength of a man. As an example, my daughter, who is 19 years old, feels that no matter what happens, dad will take care it. Her strength comes from the knowledge that her dad will provide that rock for her to stand on no matter what storms life brings her way. She is confident in herself because of my steadfast love and support of her, and my ability to be strong inside about all things. This does not mean she needs me to cry with her. Although when her heart is broke, I do cry with her, but on the inside. All she see's is her dad sitting with her, comforting her, and this she draws strength from.
Why men feel the need to let all their emotions show all the time is dumb founding to me. I have my weaknesses as all do, but in the face of adversity I choose to over come them instead of wallowing in them as many do these days. Men have lost perspective on what women truly need in their lives from a man. The insecurities men show these days is astounding to a person like me. To let your wife, daughter, girl friend, see these insecurities and other weakness will always spell doom for a relationship. Women draw strength from their man, being many men these days are weak, women must be stronger than they really wish to be. The roles are reversed from what the natural order of relationships are..
Most women, want their men to be good men, true to themselves and their relationship, a place they can shelter when life is too much, or be picked up when their self esteem is low. My thoughts are a man needs to be supportive and strong in all aspects of his life. This does not mean dominating and abusive, or trying to rule over your household. A man should be supportive, accommodating, giving, and most importantly loving. But, the women in your life should know that in a time of crisis, that you are willing to pick up sword and armor, and wade into battle when necessary.
Why men are weaker these days, I do not know or even care. What I do know is that in all things, your happiness or contentment should never be based on another. I do not want or need someone to complete me. I am complete as I am. I search for someone to enhance my life, bring new perspectives, to enjoy the things in life that I enjoy or to show me new things.
I am single for reasons outside of this topic. In life we should all grow and evolve, but keep to our core values. Sometimes a relationship can not be repaired or healed, for many reasons. Sometimes life leaves no other course of action and separating is better than destroying one another. My ex and I still talk, we are friends, and she still brings her problems and concerns to me regularly.
Many men will disagree with me, I do not care. Know this, the women that read this, it will speak to their hearts and desires. Women want their men to be men, if they wanted something else they would date other women. Be strong in all you do, self evaluate your actions and motives. Learn to be the rock and not allow a paper cut to traumatize you. Have your feelings but learn how to control them and over come them. Let them show when compassion is needed but also know how to over come them when strength is needed. Emotions and feelings should never be the driving force in your life. Loving and supporting, being the source of courage and strength for those around you, these are a mans true strengths. For me, I strive to always be the calm in the storm. May you find this within you also.
Forgive me please, American-English does not always translate well on this site.