Oh, I see. Thanks.  
Honestly I thought that autonomous=live without any help,
independent=can and can`t live without any help (at the same time).

Men don`t like being commanded - nobody likes  Nobody has the right to command: nor men, niether women. Only if it concerns work.
In relationship there should be compromices and very similar characters.
To be commanded - feel infringed, to command - feel like no initiative from the other person.
It`s my opinion