I'll try to respond to this, even though I still have a very vague idea of what the question truly is.
There are men who believe that giving gifts and financial support is the best way to win a woman. This will attract women who have materialistic tendencies and who have been raised to believe that gifts mean love. It is not necessarily nefarious, but one should be cautious of a man who buys everything he wants. Loyalty is not guaranteed once the novelty is gone.
Contrarily, there are men who believe that by winning a woman with financial matters is akin to buying her attention, or perhaps prostitution. It is possible that she has no genuine sympathy and will leave the moment that the money disappears and it's impossible to know whether love or money has more importance, so such relations are not necessarily built on a strong foundation.
The truth is somewhere in between. Men express their love for women in different ways, and women understand a man's love in different ways.
A man who constantly works and is not able to give attention to a woman will buy her gifts to make her happy. A more materialistic woman will appreciate this and they have a good chance to maintain relations. Contrarily, a woman who needs attention and interaction will believe that this man does not love her, because he chooses his work over her. In truth, he may love her very much, but this is the path that he has chosen. Some men are also not able to connect with women in a perfect way and instead choose to buy them as a solution to the emotional incompatibility.
A man who does not have much money to buy gifts, but is generous with his time and attention will not be able to please the woman who understands love as the sharing of gifts or financial stability. However a woman who appreciates the attention and interaction may love him deeply, even though they have a modest existence.
There is a balance to all things. I, myself, do not believe that financial exchanges are a good base for relations. If I have to win someone with financial means, this implies that she probably did not think I was her best candidate. It means that I have used something to steal her attention and that her heart is elsewhere. If someone does not want my attention without financial support, the emotional bond between us would be weak at best, or likely an illusion. A true gentleman will win a woman by being kind and enjoyable - a woman should want to be around him because of HIM. He should be cognizant that flowers, jewelry and vacations can do things that his attention cannot. But the man should not be stingy with financial matters either. If they are to create a partnership, everything will be shared. A man should provide a good life to the woman he chooses. He should bring flowers and be able to surprise her, to make sure she does not feel forgotten.
I have seen too many loveless marriages that were based on money. These women can fall out of love when the money leaves, just as the man can fall out of love as her beauty fades. As long as each individual is honest with the other, and has a very good understanding of their own character, sometimes they can cooperate just fine like this. I have also seen many happy marriages collapse due to financial difficulties, because one (or both) people believe their needs are no longer being met. To me, a successful couple will be happy in richness or poverty, because love truly binds them together and they see no better alternative.
For these reasons, I do not view financial exchanges as the solution, especially in the early stages of dating. Distance relations involve a lot of travel and time getting to know each other, and I would only make that investment if I trusted that the other person has genuine intentions. And the only way to make sure that her intentions are genuine is to leave money out of it until trust is built. If a woman does not see this as acceptable, we're on a dating site. There are dozens of others that you can talk to.
There are men who believe that giving gifts and financial support is the best way to win a woman. This will attract women who have materialistic tendencies and who have been raised to believe that gifts mean love. It is not necessarily nefarious, but one should be cautious of a man who buys everything he wants. Loyalty is not guaranteed once the novelty is gone.
Contrarily, there are men who believe that by winning a woman with financial matters is akin to buying her attention, or perhaps prostitution. It is possible that she has no genuine sympathy and will leave the moment that the money disappears and it's impossible to know whether love or money has more importance, so such relations are not necessarily built on a strong foundation.
The truth is somewhere in between. Men express their love for women in different ways, and women understand a man's love in different ways.
A man who constantly works and is not able to give attention to a woman will buy her gifts to make her happy. A more materialistic woman will appreciate this and they have a good chance to maintain relations. Contrarily, a woman who needs attention and interaction will believe that this man does not love her, because he chooses his work over her. In truth, he may love her very much, but this is the path that he has chosen. Some men are also not able to connect with women in a perfect way and instead choose to buy them as a solution to the emotional incompatibility.
A man who does not have much money to buy gifts, but is generous with his time and attention will not be able to please the woman who understands love as the sharing of gifts or financial stability. However a woman who appreciates the attention and interaction may love him deeply, even though they have a modest existence.
There is a balance to all things. I, myself, do not believe that financial exchanges are a good base for relations. If I have to win someone with financial means, this implies that she probably did not think I was her best candidate. It means that I have used something to steal her attention and that her heart is elsewhere. If someone does not want my attention without financial support, the emotional bond between us would be weak at best, or likely an illusion. A true gentleman will win a woman by being kind and enjoyable - a woman should want to be around him because of HIM. He should be cognizant that flowers, jewelry and vacations can do things that his attention cannot. But the man should not be stingy with financial matters either. If they are to create a partnership, everything will be shared. A man should provide a good life to the woman he chooses. He should bring flowers and be able to surprise her, to make sure she does not feel forgotten.
I have seen too many loveless marriages that were based on money. These women can fall out of love when the money leaves, just as the man can fall out of love as her beauty fades. As long as each individual is honest with the other, and has a very good understanding of their own character, sometimes they can cooperate just fine like this. I have also seen many happy marriages collapse due to financial difficulties, because one (or both) people believe their needs are no longer being met. To me, a successful couple will be happy in richness or poverty, because love truly binds them together and they see no better alternative.
For these reasons, I do not view financial exchanges as the solution, especially in the early stages of dating. Distance relations involve a lot of travel and time getting to know each other, and I would only make that investment if I trusted that the other person has genuine intentions. And the only way to make sure that her intentions are genuine is to leave money out of it until trust is built. If a woman does not see this as acceptable, we're on a dating site. There are dozens of others that you can talk to.