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Dear Julia,
I think you need to read all the posts from page one to understand what is this discussion all about. But let me try and address your story here even though translation is not the best.
And why would holiday be bad? Why would be a nightmare? Again you expecting to much from VIRTUAL! If you go and visit him with no expectations, how can then turn bad! Wake up and try to understand, VIRTUAL is ONLY VIRTUAL.. SO keep it that way..
It doesn't matter if the trip is close or far. What matters is how serious are you or him! And after speaking for a month or 2 on skype, it doesn't mean you know him. It is still VIRTUAL.
If you read all my posts, you will, hopefully see and understand, that i suggest that man first visit woman as it is also safer for woman. Maybe not only once.. Might be necessary few times and obviously on his expense.
After that, you should go to him, so to see his way of life.. Now, in this case, IT CANT BE TAKEN FOR GRANTED THAT MAN SHOULD PAY FOR YOU!!! If he see's that you cant afford, it is his choice to offer to pay for you. Personally, i would never accept that as i would feel that that person kinda own's me and i don't like that, but its your opinion if you accept or not! It shows a lot, how serious you are, to man, if you are prepared to pay for your self, not money wise but the effort wise.. It means you want that relationship - but only if man is sincere and serious.
Further what happen, happen.. Its obvious that you CANT have a nightmare..you go and enjoy as money is not a problem. There is NO man, who will not treat you well, if you go and visit him.. and i am talking restaurants, site visits, driving around, entrance tickets, etc. You need no money there.. That is what is important to understand.. You will hopefully hear soon enough how i treated woman (from her) who is coming to visit me in few days..
But if you, at the start of communication, expect him to pay for you, or even ask for bank statements to see how much money he has, do you think he will be willing to go further (although there are desperate men who will but i am not sure if you would like that kind a man)?
That is the point i am trying to make.. And i have enough experience in my life to be able to make these decisions. I don't care about money (as you can see from my previous posts if you read them), what i want is an effort, to show how serious you are and that money means nothing to you too.
As i said, i am not desperate, i will rather stay alone for the rest of my life then to pay for woman be cause she expects it and will give my money to charity... Doesn't matter if is 1EUR or 1 billion EUR!
So you see, if isn't about money, why would you then expect him to pay for you? Are you sure that if he is that easy ready to pay for you, the right man for you, with right intentions?! As you said it your self, until now you didn't find the right one! Try a different approach.. It might work..
I think you need to read all the posts from page one to understand what is this discussion all about. But let me try and address your story here even though translation is not the best.
And why would holiday be bad? Why would be a nightmare? Again you expecting to much from VIRTUAL! If you go and visit him with no expectations, how can then turn bad! Wake up and try to understand, VIRTUAL is ONLY VIRTUAL.. SO keep it that way..
It doesn't matter if the trip is close or far. What matters is how serious are you or him! And after speaking for a month or 2 on skype, it doesn't mean you know him. It is still VIRTUAL.
If you read all my posts, you will, hopefully see and understand, that i suggest that man first visit woman as it is also safer for woman. Maybe not only once.. Might be necessary few times and obviously on his expense.
After that, you should go to him, so to see his way of life.. Now, in this case, IT CANT BE TAKEN FOR GRANTED THAT MAN SHOULD PAY FOR YOU!!! If he see's that you cant afford, it is his choice to offer to pay for you. Personally, i would never accept that as i would feel that that person kinda own's me and i don't like that, but its your opinion if you accept or not! It shows a lot, how serious you are, to man, if you are prepared to pay for your self, not money wise but the effort wise.. It means you want that relationship - but only if man is sincere and serious.
Further what happen, happen.. Its obvious that you CANT have a nightmare..you go and enjoy as money is not a problem. There is NO man, who will not treat you well, if you go and visit him.. and i am talking restaurants, site visits, driving around, entrance tickets, etc. You need no money there.. That is what is important to understand.. You will hopefully hear soon enough how i treated woman (from her) who is coming to visit me in few days..
But if you, at the start of communication, expect him to pay for you, or even ask for bank statements to see how much money he has, do you think he will be willing to go further (although there are desperate men who will but i am not sure if you would like that kind a man)?
That is the point i am trying to make.. And i have enough experience in my life to be able to make these decisions. I don't care about money (as you can see from my previous posts if you read them), what i want is an effort, to show how serious you are and that money means nothing to you too.
As i said, i am not desperate, i will rather stay alone for the rest of my life then to pay for woman be cause she expects it and will give my money to charity... Doesn't matter if is 1EUR or 1 billion EUR!
So you see, if isn't about money, why would you then expect him to pay for you? Are you sure that if he is that easy ready to pay for you, the right man for you, with right intentions?! As you said it your self, until now you didn't find the right one! Try a different approach.. It might work..