Hi Linn, I'm a bit unclear here if your issue is a language barrier, or if your issue is distance. Clarify with her what the issues are, and suggest solutions to fix it. If it is distance, I'd recommend meeting in a third country very soon. Pay the expenses for both parties if you trust her, and find a place that she will agree to. It's normal that conversation dries up - in my experience, the first meeting should happen quite quickly from meeting online to keep interest, likely within 1-2 months and every 2-3 months after that. It's certainly possible that she wants it to happen, but indeed is losing hope and has become very sad about it. If you have already met before and she has grown progressively more sad, it is possible she is missing you and likes you very much. The good news is that the emotion can reverse quickly if you give her hope 😊 About language barrier, well, it gets easier if one person already has some ability in the other language, and is actively and aggressively studying. If meetings are the only time that studying occurs, it's going to be a struggle. Good luck.