After a few letters, their messages seem to become shorter and less frequent

After several months here, I notice a pattern. Ladies I have met in Russia or Ukraine seem pleased to correspond; however, after a few letters, their messages seem to become shorter and less frequent. One unusual aspect, however. They encourage me to continue writing while they barely communicate at all. Male logic tells me if she has no wish to write, she must not really be interested, so I move on. Certainly if she wished to continue, she would answer my letters and tell me about herself. Is there something I am not understanding? (Well, perhaps she doesn’t like me at all and is being polite!! Will not be the first time!) :)))))) Years ago, I met a Ukrainian lawyer who had become a friend of my mother. She and I were friends for some time and wrote to each other often. Tanya spoke English quite well; however, she often became easily irritated over trivial issues. When I suggested there might be a misunderstanding, she became further perturbed claiming I was insulting her ability to understand English (which I had not). I continued to write, realizing communication is often difficult even when both are present. Oddly, regardless of how irritated she became, she always ended her letters or conversations with a smile and a happy, “You may continue to write!” After a few months of this, I gave up and quit writing, thinking too much confusion to this relationship. My mother later told me Tanya had been very sad and hurt because she had really liked me. Huh!??? What!??? :shock: Apparently I failed to receive some memo. When I sense lack of interest, I do not keep trying to convince a girl to write. Women certainly have the right to ignore me (and often do) if they are not interested, and they have a right to be left alone. One thing seemed strange, however. The happy face and ”you may continue to write!” Could someone tell me why I should write when they do not seem interested? Please throw me a bone here! Thank you. :) (By-the-way, Tanya is now happily married to a doctor in Virginia and has twins.)