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Janho

For the woman

I've been on this only for a few days now but I noticed a few things that concerns me, from the perspective of a man who is looking for a possible life partner. You should bare in mind that there are a few perceptions, correct or incorrect about woman from Russia, Belarus and Ukraine in the west.



Let me start with the perceptions; after the end of communism the economic, social and political situation in these countries became very unstable and the future seemed uncertain.

1. Because of this uncertainty, woman who could, would use any means possible to get out of these countries, one relatively easy way would be to marry a foreigner. How else would you explain very beautiful girls marrying men 20 and even 30 years their senior?

2. Woman from these countries want to have a rich husband and they don't care what he looks like or what his personality is like, as long as he has money and preferably a lot of it.

3. They will have a child with you as soon as possible, then you wont leave her.

4. These women are generally speaking, deceitful, materialistic and greedy. So once you are married and have a child, her undying love for you will abruptly change into greedy demands for all kinds of material things, if you don't provide her with what she wants, you will not be a happy man, she will use the child against you.

Let me repeat, these are only perceptions, but it is out there and if you don't address them it will always remain in the back of any man's head that wishes to correspond with you.

A bit of advice which you may choose to use or not use,

Never ever write after only a few letters that you love him and your only heart desire is to meet him and be with him forever, he will run away faster that you can imagine. Love is a serious thing and given the perceptions above, this course of action will not advance your cause.

Don't ask him to send you money, ever. Don't tell him how hard life is and that you are struggling to put food on the table every day. It is not sexy. I know there is a perception that western men are stingy, some are, but most are just careful because of the perceptions stated above.

Then your photos, If you are half naked in your pictures in a very provocative pose, he will think that you are a an easy girl. A note on this, easy girls are nice to play with, but you never marry an easy girl. Too much make up is horrible. We want to see you as you are, maybe a little eye liner and a little lipstick but these blue and green eye shadow in excessive amounts makes any woman look funny. If you photoshop your pictures, it might be perceived as not being honest, so think carefully before you do that. A man is much more visual than woman, in other words, a man will look at the photo of a lady, decide if he likes what he sees or not, only then will he read the profile information, unfortunately the information is of a very general nature and he can not really access the personality of the woman. So he writes a letter. As you might be aware, men are not very much in touch with their emotional side, so the first letter might be something like " Hello saw your profile, your photo is beautiful blah blah blah..." Don't hold it against us, it is the way God made us. Have a heart, he will become more relaxed as time goes by.

I personally know a few men that got married to Russian woman and I must say, these women are beautiful, loyal, intelligent, hard working, excellent mothers and the best wives a man can hope for.

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